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There's a feeling I get occasionally, which I refer to as "post performance anxiety". I do some performance art and it comes up in that context for me. But I also experience a similar thing in my personal life from time to time, and sometimes at work, too. It comes after a situation when I've...

Not sure what you mean by "this" but her neglecting you and the kids and relying on you to pick up the slack with parenting, doesn't sound great and isn't something you have to be completely ok with! It's understandable that you're not okay with this. What are you willing to accept? Can you...

This is a really tricky situation. It sounds like it would help to block her or otherwise limit you seeing her updates, while you are using social media for keeping up your social connections in general. I don't think you should talk with Badger about it. I think you should talk with Moose, if...

That's a very positive update, David! Thanks for taking the time to share

I think you're spot on with this, Mags, and it's so vile.

Jesus, Bluebird, that's terrible. I can't remember if you'd managed to establish a new therapist you liked but when you do the kind of work you do (let alone any other personal/relationship stuff) I imagine you'd need some supports yourself dealing with the emotional impacts. A term I've heard...

Wow, that's really insensitive. A break where she stays with her parents sounds like a good idea, as does you planning exit strategy. Sad, but realistic as GG said. I hope you're able to find a way to work through this, with a bit of perspective and space from her NRE with him.

I've done a LDR with someone who is amazing in person but struggles to stay connected from a distance, esp if there are other stressors. I also have several friendships like this. We're just an in-person thing. It sounds like your connection with Charles revives quickly when you are together -...

If I were in this relationship, and I was not willing to separate (or have a trial separation), I would need an exit plan. Unless you are willing to accept monogamy forever, I can't see how taking separation off the table forever works. That said, exploring poly right now would fail because...

Thanks Evie :) My colleagues decorated my work desk with streamers and Justin Bieber "baby baby" memes <3 Really cute touch. Even though I'm the only team member working from work today, it feel well loved. Guess I should get back into it, though the streamers make it feel so much like a...

Ok so for you, is this TMI? You'd prefer she hadn't shared it? Do you believe she had no idea this would hurt you? Do you think he shouldn't have said it? She shouldn't be ok with him saying it? "We tell each other everything (except TMI stuff)" sounds like the problem here, maybe. TMI is...

I've been having unusually intimate / sexy dreams about ex partners this week. One night's dream was a combo of Grotto (messy break-up ex) and Patch (Grotto's ex-housemate, mutual friend of Grotto and me, semi-ex-crush of mine; he seems to have decided to be friends with Grotto and not me after...

Wow, Mya. That's a big update. Thanks for sharing. You definitely have a clear relationship goal now and loads of experience to crystallise your conviction. I wish you all the best in achieving your dreams. It is sad that you were not able to find compatibility with Marco in terms of...

Crunch time for me at work. Just two more days (today and tomorrow) and quite a bit to get done. So obviously I'm focusing on my work absolutely and not updating my blog ;) heh. Lobe is struggling with being home bound. His work has intensified due to staffing changes happening around the same...

Omg GalaGirl, THANKS for saying this. It was my reaction to this comment too but I forgot to address it with my reply. Absolutely absolutely this.

I don't want to derail this thread (and we can split this conversation off if need be) but I just wanted to respond to this. I'm not a consistently regular poster but I've been kicking about this forum for a while. I have always appreciated Kevin's kindness and thoughtful replies. I don't always...

Oh, I somehow missed the whole page 2 of replies before posting. Whoops. Mine slots in between pages 1 & 2 :P Apologies to those whose comments I skipped over

FallenAngelina's discussion of fear is spot on here. I thought Kevin had many great and sensitive things to say. One thing I'd disagree on is the frequent chats he suggested. "Every couple of weeks or so" would be pointless and pretty erosive in this situation, I think. You said of your wife...

I'm sure the OP could clarify this. I wonder whether the IVF situation would be affected if there was a separation. I know that some places don't support IVF for single people the way they do for partnered people.

. Indeed!