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Gosh, that dinner sounds delicious. Even before the Mac n cheese, and then BAM it got even better You're pretty lucky in the food dept, Kevin :)

Fingers crossed for your metamour getting a diagnosis soon, and wishing them a speedy recovery. I'm glad you otherwise have many things to feel chipper about - there are certainly positives in all this, at least for some, or from some angles, and that's ok! In fact, to me, it is a relief that...

I know you did some thinking earlier about rebound relationships and decided that MisterMoonbeam doesn't fit the bill. However this comment stood out for me in your second-last post: This to me is one of the ways a "rebound" relationship works. You desire it partly because it softens the fall...

Woohoo! Good job Eddie. That's a great sounding title to have.

Happy bday for Tuesday, Evie! Sounds like you had the nicest day possible given the lockdowns everywhere. Fingers crossed you'll be able to reschedule the travel before too long. Glad you are managing some extra connection time with Puck at this time.

Oooh yeah, I've got a "achiever" thing going on too, which is what can catch me in these dynamics. So perhaps we are similar on that front. I enjoy being capable, able to cope. Anyway, that's just my stuff that I've had to work through in relationships. You certainly have something keeping you...

Vigorous nods to GalaGirl and Mags above. Good questions by Kevin too. (But I imagine they are more for you to think about... There's no expectation for you to answer them all on this thread.) I just wanted to reiterate from my own experience, too, that there's a trap in being cast in the role...

I'm really sorry for the loss of your friend, esp at this time when we cannot mourn together in the same way as before. Glad that your offer of help to JR / Angela's family was appreciated. It can be hard to know whether or not to reach out at times like this, when there hasn't been a...

Well, everything's changed in the world right now, hasn't it. Our overseas trip happened. We got back 16 hours before we would have been required to self-isolate for two weeks at home. One of the kids' daycares didn't allow them back, the other did.(They go to two because of limited...

Oh, interesting! I recognise the first phrase from the little German I know, but I didn't realise it wasn't a straight translation of "I'm sorry" (in English). I had a similar "a-ha!" moment once when I learnt about two types of wrongdoing in Roman law. "Culpa" is when you do something wrong...

Also: thank you for choosing names for Anne and Chris (rather than just using "my partner", "her other partner"). Nicknames that are names (rather than roles or initials) make it easier to follow a story, and better establish each person as a person rather than an extension of someone else. So...

Was your question "am I seeing this false?" If so - I can't tell if you've got the wrong idea, based on what you've said. You seem unsure if you and Anne had confirmed what Date Nights meant, in terms of agreed topics of discussion. Had you explicitly agreed that talk about Chris was off the...

On reflection, there's probably room here for the concept of a "reasonable request". I would feel differently about a request in a relationship if I thought the request was "reasonable". So if you are seeking to investigate whether your request (that your partner refrains from using a phone...

Validation might be comforting for other reasons, but when it comes to the issue between you and your partner, it doesn't matter how common something is. I, too, don't like phones out on a date (or when catching up with friends etc). I prob can tolerate it a little bit but it's not something I...

Hmm... Just based on what you've written, I wouldn't want to date either of these people. Red sounds much worse than Blue, but neither seem great. I think you could benefit from solo therapy regarding what has kept you with Red and what has attracted you to keeping these big secrets rather than...

It could also be just a preference, like what Evie said.

I'm curious - what attracts you to this particular shape of relationship? I think you should begin by deciding whether you would prefer to be in no relationship or to be in your ideal relationship / a relationship that's progressing towards that. I agree with vinsanity that what you seek is...

dingedheart, your scenario of the slave/submissive was graphic, but to me, didn't support your point. If I got pregnant by a consensual kink encounter (however it went with butt plugs, anal rape fantasies, etc.), I don't think this needs to be discussed with other kids or extended family. If we...

The fourway marriage of the planet O in one of Ursula Le Guin's universes probably deserves a mention here, too See intro of this story for a breakdown of how the marriage works: http://clarkesworldmagazine.com/le_guin_03_14_reprint/

Oh Evie, I'm sad this has disrupted your planned trip to see Puck. Right decision, yes, but still sad as you say. Hopefully it won't be too long before you can manage it