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I'm not talking angry mobs, but rather, there seems to be a lot of chatter about society handing out consequences to openly poly individuals. This is not the same as a disagreement with a friend, or erroneous assumptions made by your boss. Of course there are people who don't understand, there...

What kind of consequences? Do you have any examples when it comes to the poly relationship models? As for the tattoos, it happens everywhere. Even here in California, there are countless places that don't hire people with visible tattoos. As for me personally, I'm not concerned with things...

Does this really happen, honestly? Look, I know that a lot religious circles frown upon it, even though all involved consent, but do you have any examples of "society" criticizing those who are open about those types of relationships? I'm not saying that it never happens, but to claim that...

I understand exactly what you're talking about. To be clear, when I spoke about interaction of a sexual nature. In a sense, comparing the acts of viewing porn vs., say, viewing a nude picture that someone you know personally sent you for the purposes of arousal. I never meant to intend that...

And I completely agree with you on that. I know there are a lot of men and women who take issue with it, and for a variety of very valid reasons. And certainly, if there was an agreement broken, it's cheating in my book too. I'm simply pointing out why some don't consider it cheating among those...

First off, monogamy is not defined as one partner forever. There is literally no difference between monogamy, and "serial monogamy". The latter is just a form of the former. It's like differentiating between salmon, and fish. That being said, I think that most people don't consider porn...

It's not that I don't get where you're going with that, but those analogies dealt more with the odds of a negative impact as a result in coming out. In some cases, yes, there is no choice when someone is gay, or bi, and coming out to parents & other family can sometimes lead to being disowned. I...

There's a difference between a relationship failing, and the people, themselves being failures. Take the business world for example. You could be the greatest CEO in the construction industry, but when put in charge of a hotel chain, it can fail miserably. That doesn't negate your ability to...

While it goes without saying that everyone's experience may vary, looking at the odds is not only important, but vital. That doesn't mean that one couple's success or failure is indicative of how you, me or anyone else will turn out, but it's incredibly irresponsible not to give it careful...

Wow, this thread is just as busy as the the other one. So much to address, yet so little time. I'll touch on what I can, and address the rest as time permits. First of all, we need to dispel the myth that half of all marriages end in divorce. Those stats are from the 80s, and have drastically...

Actually, other than her picking up more of the chores around the house, and me leaving one company & starting with another, there isn't anything to update.

I don't mind discussing it, but I don't want to go into a ton of detail, simply because I don't want to hijack the thread. For more detail, readers can go back & check my previous posts if they want. That being said, there were some issues before the bomb, but nothing I'd consider fatal. It was...

To be fair, I might have spoken about the family as a whole, but not once did I say that I stayed for the kids... that being said... what difference does it even make. Regardless of the reasons I stayed, I did. Had she felt the need to pursue it, there'd be a different outcome. But the blast...

Oh I'm not at all whining about being misunderstood. While I do see some remarks taken out of context, I never expected poly folks to fully grasp what it feels like. Sure, I'm negative. I abso-fucking-lutely am. Do I have poly? No. I do find the whole "monogamy is unnatural" & bithching &...

Look, if I came across too harsh, I sincerely apologize. Yes, it's an emotional topic, and one that still gets me charged up nearly 2 years later. This site is packed with my posts, and there were special circumstances involved when the bomb was dropped on me. It'll always be linked with my...

Personally, I think your definition of "bash" is way off base. Not once have I ever bashed anyone on this site. Now, while I've been called a lot worse than "cruel", I have yet to see an example of it in this thread. The ONLY thing I did, was present to him a very real possibility of just one of...

And you are more than welcome to your opinion. I however, do strongly disagree with your assertion that, 1: this board serves the purpose of "supporting " polyamory. From what I've understood, it's about discussing it. And for someone who claims to be so much on board with inclusiveness, I'm...

I second that. One of the reasons I keep coming here, is because most people can generally hash out disagreements like adults, and very few take the low road & seek to silence dissent.

Gotcha. Couldn't find where anyone said that. Must have been by someone who already blocked me.