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I know, it does feel like being about to step off a cliff! I think the way to handle the doubt is to accept the doubt itself, because it is normal. You won't be able to accept polyamory overnight; it will take time. Three months ago, when I first found out about my husband's girlfriend, I...

Hello! It's true you are not alone. I am in the same situation. Even the ages of all involved are similar! I don't have much time to write now, but wanted to give you the link to the thread I posted when I first joined, because the responses were so very helpful to me, and they might be to you...

Whimsey, did you manage to get any sleep? My heart is aching for you. I'm sorry that hearing from your husband didn't help. Right now you deserve a lot of gratitude and appreciation for the huge effort you are making, and it doesn't sound like you are getting it. Frankly your husband is...

Whimsey, about getting through this weekend: do self-nurturing and/or distracting things, and plan them in detail ahead of time, down to what movies you will watch and what comfort food you'll make yourself, and what to do if you can't sleep. That way in case you are too upset to know what to...

Whimsey, I am in a similar situation and my heart goes out to you. My husband has asked me to accept his relationship with his girlfriend and it has been extremely painful, to say the least. I am slowly starting to open to the idea. What has been helpful for me is developing a friendship with...

There is a short film (it's about 10 minutes long) called Sister Wife that offers a completely different look at Mormon polygamy. It focuses on one woman who shares her husband with her biological sister. She talks about how horribly painful the jealousy can be, but says that ultimately being...

My husband read this and said that this is exactly what he feels. It's still hard for me to comprehend, but I do want to challenge my heart to love in this new way. Thank you for your comments and hugs. No, it's not annoying that you're excited for me! My feelings are like a rollercoaster...

Oh, thank you so much, Sage! We posted at the same time so I hadn't seen your reply when I wrote that last post. Your thoughts are very helpful and I will check out your blog right now.

Thank you both for your thoughtful replies. My husband has read and appreciates them also. She doesn't have these goals right now; she is still so young that she's just exploring life. I don't think she is a "cowgirl" at all. She doesn't want him for herself. She has personal reasons for...

Hello. I am researching polyamory at the request of my husband. He has fallen in love with a much younger woman (he is 44, I am 37, she is 24). We agree that we are still in love and want to stay together regardless of what happens with her, but he has asked me to be open to letting him have...