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I'm looking for some advice around a situation I have found myself having a challenge on how to discuss with my friend T. A brief history first... I have a friend T that I met online a couple of months ago, that I started a sexual relationship with. This is/was new to me, as well as my wife M...

I've never thought of this before! My wife has a small (innocent so far) crush on a male librarian in our town. I've encouraged her to see where it goes, and I've seen him. I'd never have sex with him (I'm not into guys as a general rule), but to me it gives me some comfort. If the first guy she...

It is funny that over the last couple of years, while we have had a VERY limited sex life together, I spent much of my time getting off on 'Hotwife' types of sites. This poly path we are on now, is a slow realization that I have always had some wiring for this (mild) kink. Making it real, versus...

It looks like the triad post was from June, and the Why post is recent. I still don't understand the negative 'eye rolling' comment? Maybe they are comfortable with a certain dynamic that they both can live with. Most of the comments in this thread are related to a more one-on-one dynamic...

To be fair here, a lot of the work needed to embrace this lifestyle for me is an ebb and flow of exploring online, chatting with people, and maybe finding a person that may be a right fit. It's a lot safer to explore the ideas online than in real life. So it doesn't surprise me that they are...

I wish life were as easy as simply picking 1, 2, or 3. The challenge is accepting that what you thought your partner got in a relationship with you, may not be what they actually are getting. For instance, I have a lover now, as my wife and I had major medical and communication issues, and sex...

I think part of our communication piece is that we communicate and process everything at different speeds. I like to work through it in what, to me, seems like a logical order and talk it out. She has ADHD, and processing takes more time, so conclusions and end results aren't as clear for her...

​Here's the TL;DR ~ Should I just turn my brain off and not talk about all this stuff with my wife? Overanalzing versus Going with the Flow...And can I? I'm finding that asking the "Why" question is causing me a some deal of conflict I need to work through. In fact the Why? thread has triggered...

You are a gold mine of information, and articulate it so well! I loved this reply. Compassionate, clear, and thought provoking.

That would be great! Thanks for sharing your experience at the meeting!

Wow! Thank you for those descriptions! In fact last night my wife and I discussed how various types of relationships with other people made us feel. It made me feel better that I could express myself that I had a lover that I shared friendship with, sex with, and not having to really label what...

I like the way you worded this. I understand it a bit better now.

They have monthly meetings in the closest city to us. I think on the 15th of every month. We haven't really thought too much about going to events quite yet, as there is a lot we are working on just one-on-one with a lot of talking, and sharing what we have read online or in books. With having 4...

I'm curious how this goes for you! We have just signed up to a few local poly groups that have meetings, and are not sure what the protocols are, if any...

Thank you for that. Maybe as I see what happens with my wife and any connections she may have, I will trust more that it is ok to let go a bit. Or maybe it is that my current lover is not what I am looking for. One other thing that both my wife and I have expressed a bit of jealousy around is...

Last night we had a good friend over to have some mutual fun together. Once again I had a hard time staying aroused, though I had an amazing time with them. I was happier observing my wife getting off with her, or my wife pleasuring me while I made out with our friend. I really feel that...

My beautiful and lovely wife and I have been through a difficult road over a large part of our relationship. Maybe dynamics that aren't really part of a poly forum (sorry to assume...), but things like back to back pregnancies, blended families, crazy exes, past sexual trauma, and a greatly...

We have been only telling a select few people that understand our dynamic. We both feel like we are doing nothing wrong or illegal (here in Canada anyway), and if the conversation comes up, I think we would be happy to discuss it further, though not go into great detail. The only big issue we...

I have this problem from time to time, and the last couple of times I have been with my new fling, it has taken some time to get as hard as I would like for intercourse. The funny part is that the following morning, back with my wife, I have no issue at all! The hot dynamic, and my wife being...

Thank you