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    Unusual situation, I think... Hi!

    Welcome aboard. There are plenty of us here who identify as queer in some fashion or are involved with queer folk of some variety. We also have plenty of folk who deal with mental illness/disability in our selves or partners. Personally speaking, nothing you've described strikes me as unusual...
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    Greetings from BC Interior

    Welcome aboard.
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    Hello from Michigan!

    Welcome aboard.
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    Hi from Denver

    Welcome aboard.
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    hi from kansas :)

    Welcome aboard. Lawrence is a lovely city. I lived there for several years before moving here to the KC metro area.
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    Helping Husband through sad?

    Not currently. I have some admirers, though nobody stepping up for the romance. She has an attention deficit and is struggling with depression. I understand why she has difficulty with this sort of thing. In the midst of a rough spot, however, it still feels really shitty.
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    Helping Husband through sad?

    Have you asked him how to help him through rough spots? Seriously, it seems so many people avoid this simple process. The thing is, it's always best to ask about that when he's *not* in a rough spot. In the midst of feeling poorly, he may not feel like engaging in that sort of discussion...
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    OPP, unicorns, and derogatory poly terminology

    You'll find that a lot of such agreements, particularly among those new to practicing polyamory, are not so much mutually agreed upon as one party inflicting a rule upon the other, with the other acquiescing rather than walking away. So, in a great many OPP situations, it *is* one partner...
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    OPP, unicorns, and derogatory poly terminology

    You're coming at it backwards, though. The actual term is "unicorn hunters" and refers to the *couple* with unrealistic expectations. A woman is only thus a "unicorn" by dint of being sought by said couple. As far as the term "unicorn hunters" being derogatory..I agree that it is, to a degree...
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    Two People, One Username

    I find that to be the most intelligent thing I've ever read of his (I'm not a fan).
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    Different Ways of Defining Sex: Advice?

    This. If I were in his place and that's all that had happened, I'd say we hadn't had sex. If that were to continue for any length of time, I'd also conclude that there wasn't any real interest and walk on. So I think his definitions are just fine for him and he doesn't need to be "educated" to...
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    Witchcraft

    Do we believe *what* "is"? Your question assumes context you've not provided.
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    Two People, One Username

    Yeah, well, everybody using the account is responsible for its use. If one person wants rewarded with a ban for trolling or flaming or something, all of them are responsible. They all get to share the ban. For those interested, it's now suggested in the guidelines to avoid sharing accounts. We...
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    Poll: If polyamorous, are you spiritual or scientific?

    What? Nobody stocks sodium pentathol any more?
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    Downside of Dating, Psycho-Hose-Beasts!

    I was recently contacted by a woman on OKC who apparently just wanted a good shagging and regular fuck buddy, yet wouldn't come out and say so. She pointed out that she wasn't getting enough sex, especially during the part of her monthly cycle wherein she was extremely horny. Well, I'm not...
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    3.5 Years In: Is this the famous Fork Unforgivable, or can we still travel together?

    First, break the habit of being a creep and snooping in your partners' phones and email and such. Seriously. That's dysfunctional. Next, walk on. It's clear she's playing you. Use your spine and stand upright, then put one foot in front of the other. Or don't. Stay where you are and be...
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    One person going back to monoamory. Help?

    I'll suggest letting him deal with his own problems. Let him know that it's not a good thing to try to make his problems yours, as he does. Love him and support him as he deals with his issues, but keep in mind that they're his issues, and not yours. I suspect he's feeling inadequate because...
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    Is my marriage over?

    So she broke agreements the two of you made and then belittled those agreements as a way of justifying her lack of respect for you? To hell with that, dude...walk on. From here, it appears she stepped out of line and it's now up to her to make things right. She broke trust and played you...
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    cheating-poly; what's the difference?

    It's not just your thoughts on the matter. It's pretty cut and dried that cheating is not poly in any fashion. From Morning Glory Zell, herself: In 1992, when the editors of the Oxford English Dictionary contacted Morning Glory Zell to ask for a formal definition and background of the word...
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    NRE (New Relationship Energy) - Merged Threads, General Discussion

    That notion is pure bullshit. It may be true for some individuals--it certainly isn't true universally.
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