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That was pretty cool. I think media exposure is a good way to get people thinking about polyamory so it does not seem like such a foreign concept.

You may want to see if Arthur can identify why he is feeling jealous. It could be envy. Maybe he wants a relationship like you have with Hector. Or maybe it is insecurity, where he is afraid you may leave him. (If this is the case, you can try to reassure him that there is no pressure for you to...

There are a lot of mistakes people make in relationships as they discover polyamory. It sounds like you are willing to try to work past some of your husband's mistakes and still try. That is a very tough decision, and I think it can work if everything else falls into place. When someone's...

I was talking to a friend lately about religious belief. She was curious as to how I saw religious belief that agrees with my worldview. For example, I support gay marriage, so how would I see someone's belief who arrived through it by belief that God wants it. I had to think about this because...

I have seen some of this with "nonbeliever" vs "atheist." A lot of people see "atheist" as harsher and more definitive than "nonbeliever" even though they both essentially the same. (I guess you can be a nonbeliever who does religious stuff but doesn't believe in it.) I am seeing dispute...

It is hard to know what to recommend without knowing what S is thinking. My guess is there is probably a communication issue or some deeper issues that have not fully surfaced. Does he have issues with feeling like he is being controlled? Does he think he is spending enough time with you? How...

I think a lot of religions are heavily obsessed with "thou shall nots" and "thou shalls." I think rules are a hard way to deal with religion. (But it is easier with clear-cut rules.) As an example, the Old Testament preached that it was good morality to kill a woman in front of her parents if...

When you talk about keeping your religious beliefs, do you mean specifically LDS or more generically Christian? I was in a poly relationship with an ex-Mormon. She was involved in non-monogamy while she was married to a Mormon man. However, he started lieing and having sex outside their...

Christianity is pretty diverse. I believe I read that in 2001, there were over 30,000 denominations. So it seems like there there are many options open for Christians to find the denomination they fit in. (If they want to be part of a larger group that is.)

Heh. Freudian slip. :cool:

I use to sleep with my two girlfriends in a king-sized bed. One thing that helped was having three blankets, because the person in the middle would get very hot. That way, they can pull their leg out to cool off without having to get out of the blankets entirely. That person could also crawl...

Three Muskateers? Three's Company? Three Stooges?

A guy I went to high school sent me a message on Facebook that said he was surprised that I mentioned I was poly on my page. He said that he and his wife are, but they could never be out about it. They live in a small town and work for a very fundamentalist Christian who would never accept that...

I think dating someone else to make you feel better will be addressing symptoms rather than the root issues. It could also backfire if you go faster than you can adapt to the new situations. It sounds like you have some good security in your relationship, since you know you are connected...

Congratulations! I am happy for you. :)

When I was 23, I dated a 46 year old woman. My parents didn't approve, but assumed I was just doing crazy college experiments in my love life. It will probably be very different in your situation since you will be married and in the "serious" part of your life. I am not sure how your family is...

I tend to agree with anti-discriminatory laws. For example, if an employer decides to pay black people half of white people or men three times as much as women for the same work, then I can the government regulating that. It means that a subclass of people can not be formed. I think a simple...

Happy Anniversary! :)

Heh. That reminded me of a Simpson's quote: Bart: Reverend Lovejoy, we need you to help us find a rabbi. Rev.L: [flustered] Well, um, before you make any rash decisions, let me just remind you that the church is changing to meet the needs of today's young Christians! --...

Happy New Year everyone! :) (I actually got into a discussion with a coworker on if this is a new decade or not. 2001 was the official new year of the millenium since there was no year 0. So we are in year 9 of the millenium. Maybe we should just roll 1 BCE into the first decade to get rid of...