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No worries, good to know there are some fellow scotchbroom-aware poly folk out there!

Hey! I did see that one and almost chimed in but then decided against it. The situation is a tricky one and I think they are making it unnecessarily complicated by trying to conceive and have more than two male partners/PIV sex at the same time. I'm in a situation where my spouse and I both are...

Glad I'm not alone, and that it hasn't somehow stopped you from successfully dating! Any tips for overcoming that awkwardness? (not to take this thread way off topic...)

Not sure how relevant this is but... I had a coffee date scheduled last week. She texted me late the night before, apologizing, saying she wanted to reschedule due to shortage of sleep. I was disappointed, felt a bit wounded, like, darn she must not like me THAT much. This led to some mild...

In my neck of the US woods we don't have gorse, but we have invasive Scotch Broom, which looks similar to Gorse but presumably came from Scotland, not Ireland. It lines all the freeways and causes many allergies. I don't even think you can make tea out of the flower, but I guess you can use it...

This is an interesting discussion that has been in my awareness as I've ventured, hesitantly, into polyamory. I find the "queering" component of poly encourages me to overcome my own hesitations and reservations. I'm by no means an expert on queerness, either as a theory or in practice in the...

I watched half so far (didn't know you could get a transcript of YouTube videos, Icesong!) I agree that the video was a bit long and discursive but the YouTuber was likable enough and had an entertaining personality, and I'm always up for Celtic scenery, so I enjoyed it and will probably watch...

Thanks! A (poly) friend recommended this College Humor video series of a campaign: I've watched part of episode 1 and am finally, several decades since it was first suggested to me to play, getting an understanding of how it could be fun...

Oh boy... I might have to take a deep dive. Was actually thinking of trying to get my kids into it, so I might as well educate myself and, well, embed myself in the community...

Ah, thank you! This is really good advice and something I hadn't thought of. I am actually involved in a fair number of activities that are slowly returning to in person life - although pub sings makes me lol because I am so not a pub singer (although maybe I should try now that I am...

Hi everyone, I am sure this has been discussed, so my first question is: can anyone point me to some helpful older threads about "Starting relationships as a newly Poly/ENM straight married man" - or it doesn't have to be that specific, just starting relationships in general (I'm deliberately...

I hope I am not overstepping here, but the first thing I wonder about, if a man says his wife is okay with poly but doesn't want any contact, is whether she actually knows about the outside relationship. I've seen enough situations where someone says their spouse is okay with other relationships...

I have nothing really to add, except they I fully endorse this! Yes to all of the above. I'm a man but have been in (well, am in) your shoes as far as opening up. This is a gold mine of an opportunity to reclaim your life and do the things you want to do - not just about dating but about all...

I think this thread is about to be closed. Before that happens, just for the record, numerous inaccurate assumptions have been made about my situation in the last 10 posts. I am not planning on veto-ing anything. I am trying to open my marriage without (re)entering poly-hell, which means not...

R and I never officially "opened up". I asked to get a therapist 6 months ago to work out our issues first, before dating. She procrastinated and then met someone. That put us on a fast track to opening up. No it was our joint decision based on what we thought would be best for our...

As far as I can tell, no, I don't think she will flip flop. There's a chance she will get a jealousy streak if I meet someone who triggers her insecurities, but I think she has the self-awareness to know that she'll have to deal with that on her own (Edit: I didn't really mean "Deal with it on...

My take on what some people are saying is basically, if she stays out all night and I've been stewing, not sleeping, maybe feeling resentful or frustrated (nothing new - all stuff we've been through before) and parks the car, opens the door and I'm standing by the stairs with a pissed off...

Ah I see, I missed the limited timeframe. Do you think it would be good to check in at the end of the 2 weeks (or whatever timeframe) just to kind of... make sure? Or just assume it happened unless she tells me otherwise? I can see that working. In fact, it has already worked with the physical...

I'm actually looking at it from a self-interested perspective - Will ruining her mood cause more pain and suffering for us both in the following week? And will it make my own process of developing sexual relationships messier, down the line? As far as I can tell, the answer is "yes". I can't see...

Yeah, that's sort of where I'm at: if this is happening, let's just let it happen. I tried my best to help us lay the groundwork as a couple; we are not as far along as I would like, but how much more am I going to drag this out, if that's where we're going in the end? I see where you are...