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Why would you expect I'd use a female stereotype against you after I just posted "long live gender ambiguity?" I love that you defy stereotyping but your masculinity (if I may call it that) is harsh. I don't mind you having a solid opinion that I'm wrong, but arguing your point with CAPITALS...

I have been divorced several years. I no longer feel emotional sensitivities about my ex and the divorce. So why does my body close itself to the prospect of doing things that I used to do with my ex when I go on a date? I was not pro-mono as a youth. I would gladly have dated whoever caught...

Look at my sexism! I must have assumed you were a he because you were being so mean. Maybe I found your avatar or username masculine. Nothing personal - apologies. Long live gender ambiguity!

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Couldn't he respect be by just saying he disagrees and leaving it instead of attacking and ridiculing me? I don't care how he feels about me. I just don't appreciate his mean attitude.

I agree but for some reason NeonKaos keeps challenging me to defend myself and I keep responding. I actually hate it when this happens. It's stereotypical masculine stubbornness, imo, and it's so difficult to de-escalate for some reason. So if I get insulted by what you say, that is not you...

I think you could call someone who does more than one kind of work "polylaborist." I usually just use the term, "generalist," though. It's not delusional to say you maintain a relationship with previous employers by having them on your resume'. It is a way of showing that your work history...

Aren't you failing to respect my boundaries when you call me 'creepy' and 'stalkerish' or is that not a boundary I'm allowed to have? Look, I tried to explain to you what I meant and you are just turning it into a boundary-respect domination game. Not everyone wants to worship a culture of...

Do you see how you are pushing in the direction of exclusive definitions? Do you notice how the will to exclusion is strong in relationship culture generally as a result of a long history of monogamous tradition? Here's the general cultural tactic you're expressing here: First you challenge...

If you look at your relationships with people like turns driving a car, that's your business but a car doesn't have emotions, memories, or a desire to prove it's status as a one-person car or multi-passenger car. I'm sorry but I stand by my perspective that serial monogamy is a form of...

Ouch! Yes, I philosophize. I am not lost in conceptual abstractions though. What you should realize is that everyday people who think of themselves as very practical and down-to-earth are filtering their reality through language and status. I'm trying to break through that. Don't cling to...

This opens up a whole other area of interest of mine: clinginess and cling-phobia. Anyway, I don't see why you would be so rude about this when you have "honesty is sexy" as your footer. My issue is with honesty. I don't think divorce is honest. I think polygamy is more honest. I think the...

If you knew me, you would know that I'm a very strong critic of conformism and the use of superficial facades to impress others. If you'd read my other posts you would realize that my concern is with the underlying conflicts that occur for many monogamous people between their ability to be...

lol. You don't think transracialism is legitimate? Do you think transgenderism is illegitimate too? What's the difference? You don't think a person can be poly and want to become mono or the reverse?

Often people confuse status with reality - or rather they want to cover up reality with status. I think my fascination with this issues goes beyond marriage and divorce to a more general philosophical level. For example, I've been watching the politics of ousting Kaddhafi from power and it...

Property, kids, etc. are just easy examples because they are persisting materialities of the relationship. I actually find it more interesting to look at how a relationship can continue to exist as part of your life just through its memory, the lessons you learned, and the person you became...

I don't know why I'm getting defensive when you're just stating your impression honestly. I guess I just don't like the idea of being "convoluted, unsound, and a bit crazy to some." I can understand that you disagree with things I say, but I think my analytical reasoning is sound enough to be...

I suppose I could be more careful, but once I figure out something for myself, I have trouble presenting it apologetically and with much attention for some other culture. Do you, for example, enjoy apologetically explaining your poly views and choices to mono-normative people? What I really...

I guess you're just being concerned and not just insulting me as being crazy in an indirect way. I'm surprised you and others who have reacted negatively to me don't see anything in the kinds of cultural analysis I do. Granted the bible is controversial and tends to evoke strong reactions in...