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You seem to be assuming that celibacy is necessarily "anti-woman, anti-sex, and wholly patriarchal." Both men and women can practice celibacy, and I don't even see celibacy as an absolute thing. It's more like an ideal of abstaining from sexual activities and thoughts, when possible. Celibacy...

Maybe too much of an assumption on my part. Usually when people start defining addiction in a way that excludes some and labels others, it's because they see it as little more than a stigmatizing label. I find it very liberating to know that practically everyone experiences addiction in some...

I don't know if it's that important to avoid buzzwords. The challenge is to keep it relevant and constructive. If addiction is a relevant issue in people's lives, it shouldn't matter if it's popular to 'buzz' about it or not, should it? I think the big problem with 'buzz' and sensationalism...

It seems like the responses in this thread are geared toward defining the issue in a way that demonizes some people as fitting the criteria and absolves others because they don't. I don't see what is so important about differentiating a teenager "addicted" to ice cream from a meth addict...

Those kinds of ideas are interesting, but where do you go with them? All you really have to interpret is the scripture that was preserved. I wouldn't assume that it is perfect because it was preserved, but you just have to decide whether you want to interpret it in a constructive way or reject...

I started to indulge your exploration of the vocabulary by looking up the etymology of the Latin roots, but I decided they don't shed that much light on the discussion. I like your application of the active/passive distiction, though, and the sensitivity that the words carry different energies...

That is a really useful contribution to this thread, nycindie. Thanks. I wonder if it is necessary to treat addiction as mutually exclusive with obsession/compulsion. Why can't addiction sometimes involve compulsive behavior and cause obsession, for example? I don't think it would make as...

It's good you have clinical experience to share. It feels like you are pulling rank by mentioning it, so allow me to just say that my interest is in discussing the topic and not in establishing who has the right to make legitimate claims and who doesn't. Not all "addictions" are chemical and...

I see your point. I don't know what the writer would say if we asked him. I think you CAN safely interpret the words in their own terms, e.g. "unrighteousness" could simply refer to a state of mind in which righteousness is rejected, i.e. total relativism. You could say that two people who...

The first thing that comes to mind for me is the part of the bible where Jesus is criticized for eating with sinners, and he says that his work is with sinners. Maybe you're right to point out Paul not being Jesus and he was missing the proactive part of Jesus' teachings. I wouldn't...

You should watch the King's Speech if you haven't already.

That's actually a very lovely thought, RP, that word salad could be related to excitement and anticipation. I will mention that from now on when I'm discussing the phenomenon/symptom of "word salad" in schizophrenia. Indeed, people may be feeling very excited about something they want to share...

That article is hard to deal with because it is very reactionary toward the idea of sex addiction without really discussing alternative perspectives on the types of behavior that might be labelled as "addiction." Likewise, he says that a 12-step type approach might not be the best way to deal...

From her other posts, I got the idea that her libido was lacking a lot of the time. Maybe he just thinks it's ok for things not to build up to sex since it doesn't happen when he's expecting it. Just a guess.

See, you laughing at that makes me defensive because it is hard to express thoughts sometimes and I end up going on and on with words trying to explain. "Word salad" is a mean term because it implies schizophrenia in the writer/speaker. It would be like calling polyamory an STD swap meet...

And excessive drama and aftermath can all be part of the process of learning and self-expression that comes with the relationship?

I seem to be unique among people who have rejected monotheism in that I have been able to re-discover it as a source of insight more meaningful than before I rejected it. Of course it was never pushed on me the way it seems to have been pushed on many people who vehemently reject and resent it.

It's good to hear someone struggling with divinity because they believe that there is some truth to be achieved in not simply going along with what someone else(s) have established. Personally, I can embrace atheism, buddhism, and "God" at the same time because they are all parts of the same...

I liked this post very much, especially the comment that love is entirely liberatory and thus the opposite of addiction. It's a really good point, considering how many addictions are probably fueled by a deep longing for love that goes unfulfilled. Your second post about the hungry ghosts went...

Love comes in so many different forms. If you read the wikipedia page on love addiction, it even gets into things like when you are obsessed with the love of your children or believing in finding a "true soulmate." Apparently, you only have a healthy level of interest in love if you...