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That was an interesting read. I wonder if it would be worth starting a different thread on love addiction. After reading about it, I'm trying to figure out what it would be like to not be addicted to love. Love seems like food to me. You can live without sex but not without love, I think -...

When you say "looking to get involved," do you contrast that with more casual dating or all dating? My impression is that lots of people jump into casual dating and I don't know how they keep from getting involved. I seem to be better at walking away from people than I used to think I was...

Some of these responses seem to suggest that sex addiction is the product of deprivation, but isn't that like saying a person in AA avoiding alcohol is more addicted than someone who is still in denial of their addiction? Generally, I find that you only really find out how addicted you are to...

Thanks for posting the link. Love addiction? What's that?

The Tiger Woods scandal and others brought the issue of sex addiction into public light. Is sex and addiction or is it just harder from some people to achieve sexual satisfaction that others? Are some people better at going without sex than others and why? What do people think about sex...

Wow, I'm glad you thought of this interpretation. I think you could go beyond custody issues and think about the very inner existence of each individual as both their parents combined inside themselves. A child is literally one body constructed from two people who created it through sex. I'm...

Fortunately or unfortunately, it is possible to live without sex. It can be very difficult, especially when it is readily available and/or you are used to having it regularly, like food or other kinds of recreation/interaction. So I wouldn't quite go so far as to say cheating is need-driven...

It would be an interesting discussion what love is or could mean and whether unconditional love exists and what that means and what "soulmate" means or could mean. Considering how complex that discussion could get, it's nice that you just "called bullshit" to state your opinion. You're right...

Yes, I can get into analyzing the darker side of human relations, often somewhat cynically though always with some hope for better understanding and finding the silver lining. It actually occurred to me during a breakup once that the self-confidence and self-esteem you get from being in a...

All I was saying is that I think when people are in monogamous relationships, they sometimes/often feel some level of attraction or interest in others and this can go as far as they let it. However, because monogamous culture renders such feelings/actions taboo in various ways, they end up...

Good points. I think there's also some fear of openly questioning your partners behavior because it makes you seem suspicious and distrustful. I've heard people say that if their partner keeps asking them about affairs, they are going to have one. Or there's the person I saw on the TV show...

Thanks, I think, for the positive feedback. I'm not sure that using "blunt" direct language automatically equals being mean and accepting people being mean in response. I believe you can disagree with people openly without making it personal. I don't feel anyone needs to apologize for...

I also dislike it when people use a conflict-avoidant tone and overdramatize a diplomatic attitude. Being open-minded, diplomatic, recognizing the uniqueness of individuals instead of assuming generalizations to be absolute, etc. are just givens to me. When I talk with people who accuse me of...

She is probably frustrated that you downplay the significance of something you have and she doesn't. I.e. you don't see your marriage as more than a formality but it sounds like she values the idea of marriage more deeply. Maybe you should offer to perform a wedding ceremony for your husband...

Maybe she really enjoyed it, and it would embarrass her to say that, so she's self-criticizing instead, with the hope that doing so will make her seem less selfishly indulgent, which she may feel like she is, regardless of whether that is relevant or not. Some people feel uncomfortable indulging...

My ideal of a totally committed relationship involves people wanting to support each other in all forms of growth, development, and change. The idea, imo, is that you love this person because of what they are THROUGH all their changes and growth. Mostly I find that people just can't appreciate...

I don't believe in determinism, biological, cultural, or otherwise. Everything always happens due to interacting factors. Nevertheless, culture is diverse because there are many different ways of pursuing the same basic goals, many having to do with bodily issues. E.g. all humans have libido...

But realistically, how much of monogamy is about protecting your partner and nurturing their ego by avoiding saying things that have the potential to make them feel insecure? How often do you hear that women want to be told they're not fat, regardless of what their partners really think, or...

Well put. Labels that essentialize people are misleading. You say you disagree with me but you're saying what I'm saying when you describe humans in terms of species behavior. The point is that we all have basically the same instincts and we all have the ability to resist them to varying...

My opinion is that love means good communication, even whether there is disagreement or conflicts of values. So if this person loves you, he should at least respect you enough to communicate why he thinks you are making too much of something that bothers you and being willing to understand your...