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I like to touch strangers on the dance floor. It's a socially sanctioned, nonsexual form of touch. We dance for lots of reasons, including the exercise, the music, the friendships that form, the conversations, etc. but I can't pretend that I don't enjoy the hand holding and the dips and the...

Colin just got back from a few days hiking and camping with a female friend. While he was gone, I had a dream that there was a gap in email communication (he writes to me most days) and I was sure he was sleeping with this woman, and I really struggled with it. When I woke up I thought about my...

It sounds like you are coming around to a better place. Sometimes when it comes to relationship obsession I try to think about things less in terms of "The Relationship", which is huge and heavy and burdened with uncertainty and baggage, and more in terms of the moments you share with someone...

Things are improved here, again. The weekend was a little rough. I was happily enjoying my time with Colin, dancing away the second evening, and looking forward to his plans for me back at the hotel, involving the clawfoot tub, a foot massage, and a bottle of very good wine, and suddenly my...

My mom doesn't even know the situation with Colin. She knows he is driving me and staying in the same hotel, and that he's a friend. She knows that my daughter and I plan to spend a lot of time with my daughter's friend and her mother, another friend of mine, along with loads of other people I...

We talked some more. Now he's not going to come because he says it's clear he's not wanted. (I told him it's true, but that he would have been wanted if we'd planned to spend the weekend together to begin with.) Now we're in a huge fight. There's this recurring theme, where I tell him he has...

I've been looking forward to this weekend for a while now. I'm headed to a 4-day event where Colin and I first started falling for each other last year. I talked to my husband about it several weeks ago and asked how much, if any, of the time he wanted to be there, and what to do with the kids...

Colin shaved off his mustache on my account. He's had it pretty much his whole adulthood. I don't enjoy mustaches. We made a joking deal last year that I could have his naked lip if he ever got to play with my naked body, which didn't seem at all likely at the time. He decided to go through with...

The conversation L and I had yesterday afternoon keeps distracting me. Specifically, he talked about the way some women enjoy aggressive sex. I've told my husband before about a couple of my favorite moments in my sex life before meeting him. There's something I love about bringing a man to the...

Luke came into town tonight, and he, my husband and I all went dancing together. I walked up the street linking arms between the two of them, feeling smug as a bug. It makes me happy to see the way the two of them respect and admire each other. Luke and I have always enjoyed talking about sex...

I'm reminded of a cute little story about a newlywed couple. The man tells his new bride, "I expect dinner on the table at 6pm every night, whether I'm home or not, " and she says, "I expect sex in our bedroom at 10pm every night, whether you're home or not." At this point I would be awfully...

This is what my husband said too. Like you I started to think my desires were silly and I should be happy, but the thing is, you not only deserve to be loved, but you also deserve to feel loved. The Love Languages book somehow got through to my husband that I would not feel loved by him, no...

Y sounds so much like my husband! I went through the same things, for several years: asking to be complimented, to have more attention, to get the kind of romance and flirtation from him that I could see would be easily available from other men in my life. Honestly what finally got through to...

Ok, I would not go that far! It's not that I want him to find something wrong with me, it's just that I know he's thinking every little thing about me is so great just because it's me. For example, he said my breasts were the perfect shape and size. I said if they were bigger or smaller he'd...

What a great weekend! Last New Year's Eve dance event was a disaster, a catalyst for a whole bunch of drama between my husband and me, centering around my treatment of him vs. my treatment of Colin and other men. This weekend all three of us attended a local "camp" involving dancing all day and...

Oh, never mind. I'm not over the NRE after all! I've just spent some idyllic time with him, and I'm apparently still quite madly in love. This marks a year since we became friends, and next month marks a year since the first kiss. I suspect this kind of relationship is going to take a very long...

I had a nice date with C today, and he brought up the possibility of buying a house or condo in my city. He has a rural home 5 hours away, and also has a house in a town two hours away where he lived for many years, and I am on the path between. He travels around a whole lot. (He's wealthy and...

I just looked up these lyrics -how great! I sent them to a friend of mine who just told me today about this chain of 8 people he is linked into (six of them having 2 partners apiece, with the end two having just one partner). Perfect!

After many months of posting here in moments of confusion and frustration, and getting such wonderful advice and support, I'm now in a place where I would like to write about my life but I don't have pressing questions to ask. Time for a story. Chapter One: As a single woman, I had a bad habit...

Oh, thanks! I tried searching for "music" but that didn't help.