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Focus on the people who ARE there for you, like Miss Pixi.

Oooh, I like this! And glad you are okay (I hope?) Well, at the moment he's with family, in a different city. Out on the beach almost every day. And, yesterday, in the middle of the afternoon, I get a picture text from him with him peering over the shoulder of his baby girl, who is resting...

I waited it out at first, than my partner stepped forward of his own accord. He ended up removing himself from the relationship (at least romantically, he refused to sleep with her as long as she chose to cheat with married men). I don't think I could have stayed with him, in the long run...

I am in a M/s relationship. But I would never, ever let him force me to do something that went against my nature. Not that he would ever do it. Our romantic relationship built up first, so he genuinely cares about me.

I had the same issue, and eventually, it caused my partner and his SO to part ways. Karma always takes care of things, in my experience.

Now, it does seem like a stupid rule, OP, sorry, but let me give you the way it works for my partner and myself, and maybe it'll help give you some alternatives: My partner and I are one of those couples that checks in constantly; so this may be perfect for you. "Check in" is probably the...

True, but you do tend to find, I think, a lot of negative/confused experiences (mostly due to the nature of forums). It's nice to consolidate the positive reasons.

I just never felt the need for monogamy, so always played around within the relationship (and sometimes cheated). Then I met a poly man (he was still mostly open at the time) who wholly accepted me for what I am, encouraged me to love and be with others, and supported me in being the best I can...

My metamour refuses to participate in his and my side of things, so I rarely have this issue. It's too bad, I would have no issue with it, myself. When I am around him and her, for whatever reason, she is extremely uncomfortable with PDA. But that was mostly a moot point, because he hated it...

Well, my metamour tried to blame me for the falling apart of her relationship with my partner. But, no, no one's ever really thought she had any effect on my relationship with him. When things went badly, which they did for awhile, they wholly blamed him. When things went good, they credited...

Are you mono? It sounds as if you have a LOT of needs here. Being with a poly person means having to take care of some of your needs yourself (though your partner certainly doesn't sound like he's balancing well).

He is a coward. If I were you, I would not be above a text message, so that it's not blocked, that says, "I'm sorry you are too cowardly to tell me this in person. I hope the next woman who comes your way is strong enough not to put up with bullshit rules like veto power, so that you cannot...

Form an LLC. Same benefits, less of the annoying aspects mentioned above.

I've never known a successful mono/poly relationship (one partner is mono, the other is poly) where the setup didn't arise because 1) Circumstances prevented both from being around each other for long periods of time or 2) One partner had significantly more relationship needs than the other, and...

That is abundantly clear. My view has always been no trust, no relationship. You can have a shell relationship/marriage, but that's it. My two cents, anyway.

Hmmmm, she makes very restrictive rules, doesn't follow them, you do, and curiously you have no dates, despite interest and opportunity. Ever occur to you that she may have deliberately set this up so that she gets to be poly, but you don't? Trust me, you wouldn't be the first guy to be played...

What you say: My fiancée and I have been poly from the word go, and because of the rules of conduct we worked out things have been great. What I hear: "As long as my partner does whatever I say, everything is awesome." What you say: The rules relevant here are that new partners have to have...

Poly usually works best when no one really is able/desires to fill each other's needs. When you're with BF, rather than your husband feeling neglected, he feels glad for the opportunity to be with his girlfriend/friends/get time to himself. When it's a scarcity model, it rarely works.

Sorry, but you do come across as so many people do where poly is ALL about you. What if you meet a wonderful woman, but she wants alone time with both of you? Would you pass because of that? What you really want is a woman who is mostly into women, but open to men. I'm like that, and would...

Saying you're gay first and bisexual second, sounds to me like someone saying, "I'm a vegetarian, but I sometimes eat meat." Ummm, wait, what??? So, please don't be offended if a lot of people are confused. They'll also probably read what you said to me, "I love my wife, but in a non-sexual...