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I am very happy with my primary partner; but do hope someday to have multiple primaries. He and I honestly have no interest in bringing anyone into our poly group who doesn't want a primary style relationship (i.e. wants to be part of our family and build a life together). What that means for...

Ok, here's what I'm getting, please correct me if I'm wrong: She cheated on you for several years. You found out about it four years ago. Instead of calling it quits, you worked together...and she introduced you to the guy and you had some threesomes. However, except for the week before he...

You're overreacting. You can't control every minute he sees her. You fought every night for a week and then were surprised he made plans to see her? Stop controlling his time with her and focus on communicating your needs to him. Also, imo, you're lucky he used the daughter excuse. That way...

Whenever she wants, however she wants? As someone in her position, or at least dating a guy with kids, I definitely get interrupted by the kids. Whether we're out, and something happens to one of the kids, so he gets called home early. Or if I'm at his place, and the kids are around (we've...

My partner has two primaries, and I fully intend on having at least two primary relationships in my life. I only date "secondaries" with the potential to become "primary" relationships. So, yep, there are absolutely options ;)

I have not had a successful experience with a mono partner involved in a polyship. However, I think it's very possible if you have a mono partner like SouthernGal: someone with a very full life, wanting multiple points of interaction with different people, able to share their partner's time...

Sorry, OP, you were trying to be funny? I'm bad at reading humor. ..

He doesn't have to be. She doesn't have to treat him as such. When I entered an established relationship, I felt like the "new gal." And now I don't, simply because he doesn't treat me that way. He treats me like he and I have known each other forever.

No one, not her or the husband, is required to be in a relationship that is unfulfilling. If she truly makes her husband feel pain, then he has the right to leave. Hoyam, as for you, there is nothing you can do to "make" your husband feel loved. You can show him through your actions, tell him...

Hehe. You can reverse the genders if you like. Men totally have emotional issues ;)

Poor guy? Why are you pitying him? He gets to be with a lovely lady and NOT deal with all her emotional issues (he has another guy to help him take care of that). Could be an utter win-win for him.

"Purely sexual, casual relationships," can still be tricky to manage within those confines. In my case, such a thing would be nearly impossible for him and not fun for me (she would have to see him only when he's away from family, unlike myself, if she were to have no interaction with his...

I don't know any of those people personally. I've just seen people talk about how they've been with their boyfriend for 10 years and their husband for 7. Not sure what the reason was for not marrying the first (perhaps was already married, maybe didn't want to get married). Couldn't say ;)

I thought "spouse" was equivalent to "marriage type setup." Sorry for ambiguity. I say, "spouse" phase, only because group marriage is not allowed. If you already have a spouse, it's hard to define others at that same level. But it's also possible to have a partner for years and THEN marry a...

That's not polyamorous. It's "poly" if by poly you mean large number of partners....

Again, sex often changes things. But a lot of times, yes, the most important values remain

And also in love with a married man ;) We're twins!

Oh, some of these people in my life were friends I cared very deeply about and often had intense conversations with, comforted, etc. I don't really have sexual relations with someone I don't trust. It's simply that the physical relations between us were very casual and terminated at a moment's...

According to responses on this thread, most partners are totally cool with their metamours wanting wedding ceremonies or children or life time entanglements with their partner.... Mine, well, let's just say she's not going to be thrilled....

Nothing wrong with that, if you enjoy it. But this whole idea of "If I have a straight man who loves me, I'll have two guys, and he'll have three women?" And his, it needs to be a bi guy (is your guy even bisexual?) Not a great approach. All of you just need to develop the relationships you...