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New Post: Opening Up About Mental Illness http://polyamoryonpurpose.com/opening-up-about-mental-illness/

Thanks, guys. Question: Should I keep sharing the new posts here? After this week I'm not going to share most of the posts on Reddit or Facebook groups, b/c I'm just not active enough, it'll begin seeming like link span pretty quickly. Especially since I can't just share each new post as a...

Next Post Up Sorry for not being around to respond the past several days. Life is crazy. In any case, next post in the series is up: Facts About Mental Illness for Polyamorous Partners

Definitely including the personality disorders ("Cluster B" is a new term for me, but the disorders are familiar), as well as developmental disorders (I hate that term but ATM it seems to be the best I got) such as autism and ADD. There was a debate going on over at reddit as to whether it is...

The Polyamory and Mental Illness blog series starts today on Polyamory on Purpose. I'll be covering everything what basic facts of mental illness, to supporting poly partners with mental illness, to (some of) the many and varied ways mental illness can impact poly relationships. The...

I "took in" and completely agree with what you are saying. My intention is not to discuss or dispute your meaning, I am attempting to point out that way you phrased your idea came across to me as exclusionary and ableist. As I do not believe it was your intention to come across that way. I said...

HappyFallenAngel, I get what you are saying, but as someone w/ depression & anxiety disorder, in a LTR w/ someone who has bipolar and PTSD, the idea that "emotional stability" is required for a healthy and respectful relationship is rather othering. I don't thnk your intention is to say that...

As Becca says, I don't think privilege is something that can be done away with that easily or that is under the control of any of us as individuals (or of any individual relationships.) Here are a few examples of what I think of as couple privilege (ie ways in which society privileges couples)...

In some other forums, I've noticed this idea get tossed out a lot as an excuse for avoiding the other kind of penis envy. "It's not that my wife wants to date other MEN. I'm the only man she needs. It's just that she's bi so she needs a woman, that's all. And that's why being poly is not a...

I've had it happen to me, but the worst part was he didn't say he wanted monogamy. He just slowly cut himself off from me to focus exclusively on his OSO. I was the one who finally said it was over after it dragged out for far to long, him insisting he loved me and wanted a relationship, but...

Black & Poly For those interested: Black&Poly is a website and Facebook group dedicated to creating a community for and sharing the experience of people who are black and poly. Facebook group has over 2,000 members. https://www.facebook.com/groups/blackpolyamory/

We lived in Tennessee for a few years, but were effectively monogamous during that time, so no real knowledge. I'd suggest getting in touch with the Memphis Polyamory MeetUp group. They were still active last I heard, and a good group.

Vague recollection of seeing studies and surveys on this question, with the answer that black men (I don't recall seeing anything discussing women) under a huge amount of pressure to not be gay, due to culture stuff and probably related to the hyper-masculinity which has become part of the...

Based on discussions I've lurked on in the PolyResearchers group, the few surveys there are show that people in the US who identify as poly are predominantly white, with a smaller representation of minorities than the national demographics would suggest. The problem with these surveys is they...

I don't know if I'd consider that 'too poly', if only because my definition of poly includes commitment and ethics, and people like that have neither. Whatever you call it, it's an absolutely shitty way to treat people, and I'm sorry you had to go through that.

It's been officially ok'd by several experts (also included in the above link) and as far as confusion, we deal with confusion over the plural vs. singular 'you' every day, and no one has any trouble with it, so the idea that confusion caused by a singular 'they' causes insurmountable confusion...

Just on a quick skim, it sounds like the daughter was being neglected and deprived of her mother's attention. Yes, the poly situation was handled badly there, but the same thing can happen in a monogamous household when a mother gets caught up in her work, school, new boyfriend, hobby or even...

The short answer is poly homes are not immune to abuse, neglect, mental illness, instability, drug abuse, or any of the dozens of things that actually hurt kids. Poly households in and of themselves aren't harmful, but there are individual poly homes that are harmful because they have the same...

I use 'they' as a gender neutral pronoun in my writing, in keeping with the way English has been used for the past five centuries or so. (Yes, seriously, the gender neutral they is not a new thing, it's been in use since Chaucer. Here is my handy-dandy, bookmarked reference that I've been...

Regarding earlier posts about children and poly, while there hasn't been enough research to be conclusive, over thirty years of research into children raised in non-monogamous families haven't found a single problem. Here's a full list of research as of Jan 2012...