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I am sorry about everything going. :( The Ginger and Carla saga never seems to end. It is like a nightmare rollercoaster with gut wrenching twist, turns, and drops. Seemingly more drops than anything. You might have to distance yourself a bit in order to maintain sanity. It does not sound like...

Part II: Family, Forgiveness, and Decadent Gelato Matt and our children returned home earlier today. He went to work and got them to school on time. I did not want them missing school, and the left before the sun was even up. I was already scheduled to be off, so I had no worry of missing work...

Part I: 100th Birthday Celebrations, Mother's Day, and Bungy Jumping? I hope everyone had a Happy Mother's Day. I had a brilliant weekend, so I am in excellent spirits. Friday: we flew to Sydney for an overnight stay. While at the airport, I received the best surprise. My MIL knew how much I...

I am sorry for your loss, YouAreHere. Sending condolences to your family and hugs your way. :(

Interesting play on words. No, I do not want the figurative cigarette. The patch must be working overtime because that cigarette never sounds good. It is like I recognise the damage that cigarette could do to my otherwise healthy living, so I know to avoid it.

I follow your blog. This is much more enjoyable than constant dysfunction and chaos. I am horrible at commenting on people's blogs, and I am catching up while my son is napping and the girls are gone to school. Happy (early) Anniversary to you and Murf. Three jobs? Dag, you just made me want...

Carrot cake...after my own heart. I wanted carrot cake cupcakes at about 4 AM. I finally had some this morning. Matt was sweet enough to pick some up after he dropped the girls off at school. He is my favourite person today. It is good that you have a strong companion in Cereb. The two of you...

I agree with you wholeheartedly, Bookbug. I have never actually heard anyone say that or imply it. Interesting. I wonder how I would have responded to that if/then rationalisation. At the least, I would respect it--even if it did not mirror my own beliefs. I have been on both sides--told that...

First, your post made me hungry. I have a hankering for a strawberry and elderflower pavlova. I love the dynamic you describe between you and Cereb. There is something to be said for having a male friend who gets you and does not expect anything. It is important to surround yourself with people...

I was trying to avoid going back to therapy. I suppose I will know when the time is right to resume, or I will work out my issues internally. Unless she can help with my desire for emotional monogamy, I am not sure I need to be in a rush to go back. I can ignore my feelings for others and treat...

YAH, I have often heard my elders say that. I would imagine so. I can think of quite a few examples in my family and his family, too. I am closer to Matt now. There are still days where I want to strangle him--usually about him being tight with finances--but all in all, I have no complaints with...

Fastest way to make my skin itch is to bring up the children analogy. I have three children who I love with every beat of my heart. I am not in love with them. I love them equally, but each love is a bit different and special. I bond with all three every day, and I bond with Matt. The bonds I...

Good morning. Happy Thursday. Last day of the work week. (!!!) My mum and daddy have made it to 39 years of marriage as of yesterday (today for them), and I am looking at them in awe. 42 years together, 39 years of marriage, 3 adult children (two of whom are married), 1 teenager, a five year...

Welcome back! It sucks that your daughter's phone was stolen, but I am glad the trip was fun! I have to agree with your observations. Magic Kingdom was like a nightmare. It IS dated. I wish they would modernise. Heaven knows they have the revenue to do so. Thank you for saying that. I thought...

Sticking with my original thoughts that I erased. He should tell. If he was man enough to cheat, then he should be man enough to own up to it, take responsibility, and be prepared to deal with the repercussions. It is a gamble, but one has to be accountable for whatever they do. Subconsciously...

I am sorry you are struggling with all of this. Even the strongest individuals weather tough times. Others have given you excellent advice in the other thread, and it seems like your marathon communication session clarified a few things for you. I hope it gets better for you. I would say fight...

I do not agree with the notion that you can never return. People may not want to return, but it can be done with willing participants. I see a few red flags. 1) He slept with her and told you after the fact? Was there an agreement in place that the relationship was even open for looking...

I am trying to be cautious of that. It is frustrating for me because I have no idea what the real issues are at this moment. I think I need to do some investigating or just shelve this and deal with it later. Matt was recounting everything I have done to reinvent myself (i.e. erase the past and...

Tis true. I am viewing it like...cheating equates to rules or boundaries being broken. The first analogy that comes to mind is using your hands while playing football. Using steroids in any sport is another. Sure, it gives the player a boost and makes them feel good, but it is wrong. Obviously...

I honestly feel like I had an affair all those years. It sounds irrational because I was not doing it behind his back, but it is feeling all the same right now. What is the difference between what I did and having a long-term affair be revealed? I lost his trust and his respect. He wanted a...