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Hey, thanks! I don't know him but I'll check it out. I'm glad to hear you're doing well too. If you ever need someone to vent to feel free to dm me.

Note: I took too long to correct and cannot edit the original post now. I have corrected errors here. Correction: I don't even know what that word is but it was intended to be 'began' Correction: she didn't tell me to get in my car. I was already on the road at the time about to drive 2...

This is absolutely a safe place for you to get this out in the open for some advice or emotional support. I think it's important that you've continued to remind him that you're poly and I think it may be very important that you tell zero that this is how you're feeling. A loving relationship...

Feeling touch starved today. I need to find a cuddle pile.

It is. It's the only regret I have. In all other things I have learned to be grateful for my experiences because they shaped me. I've learned to love the person i am and to forgive myself for my mistakes. When I first came to this conclusion it changed my world. I stopped seeing my...

Ya know... every once in a while I still have just a little self pity over it, but for the most part I feel like it was the fulcrum upon which my life pivoted from being stuck in a prefabricated box defined by social norms and fear to my highest and most authentic self built up by love and...

I agree, but keep in mind that she's very new to this and doesn't have her head wrapped around it yet. I'm not saying that you're wrong. I just feel like it could have been worded a little more gently. It's obvious that she's here trying.

I think that's a pretty strong assertion there, honestly. She's clearly here venting her frustration and anxiety, while seeking more experienced perspectives, and clearly joined expressly for that purpose, when she could easily be venting it in his face. That sounds like an effort to me. I...

I will clean up and correct any errors in that post asap. Following this I will be transitioning to discussing the books I'm reading on polyamory and what I see for and in myself in the context of polyamorous relationships.

After years of financial abuse, verbal abuse, and emotional abuse I managed to make it into the DBT program offered at UIHC. In the month or two between when I applied for the space and when I received it, my wife and I separated. I remember right before it happened I was sleeping on the couch...

Those are laudable goals to dedicate yourself to. I came to the need to strengthen those traits in myself through an existential crisis but I'm no less dedicated. I also find it incredible that you use that as a mantra. My philosophy is that the past is gone and the future is a dream. The...

I'm glad your neighbors seem to have accepted it. I'm sorry to hear you're going through that. I'm sure it's painful and I'm glad to hear you're keeping your head through it. Sometimes all we can do is offer our love and hope. If you need someone to vent to, or a chance to talk through how...

I LOVE this. I hope that, like me, he's able to just laugh and shrug that off. I assume it was because they just decided on the spot that I was lying about the fact that we've never had any kind of sexual intimacy. That's why I don't feel like it was any great loss. Everyone has needs and...

That. 100%. In fact, I've been ghosted by other poly people because they thought I was full of shit when I explained the situation. Didn't feel like that was a huge loss in the aftermath, but it did happen.

update: Got really side tracked reading and talking to people tonight so I'm putting off finishing the account of my last 10 years until tomorrow. Hey Kevin. Thanks for the support. I really appreciate you. I'm off all my meds now and I have a pretty good handle on keeping my emotions from...

Let me weigh in because I'm actually on the bandwagon here. My best friend and I live together. I call her my sister when talking about her to others because it's easier than actually explaining. I adopted her 15 years ago. We talk, laugh with and at each other constantly, help each other...

note: filled out the first post enough that I hit the character limit. In hindsight I believe she suffered from postpartum depression that drove her to lash out more intensely than she otherwise would have. I sometimes wonder if things might have been different had I realized that at the time...

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy for Borderline Personality Disorder Amazon link to the manual itself. This is a digital copy of the instructor resources used to guide patients in learning the skills to handle their emotional extremes. I have found it useful. DBT Manual If anyone with a BPD...

Hey. I haven't mentioned it anywhere else just yet. It's planned for my next post. I was diagnosed with emotional disregulation (a less stigmatized name for BPD) several years ago. Went through two cycles of DBT and have MOSTLY figured myself out and gotten my emotions under control. It...