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Danger Will Robinson!!! She is hacked off with him and flirting with you because she knows you like her...it is typical attention seeking behaviour, in effect, she is using you to make herself feel valued. Once that need is filled she will have no use for you at all. Is that the kind of...

I don't think wind-up threads are very mature, so make of that what you will. But I won't bother trying to explain something to you, because it is clear you have ALL the answers.

In other words, there is a difference between how an individual chooses to interact as an individual and the relationship type they have. A Polyamorous person can be in a Monogamous relationship and a Monogamous person can be in a Polyamorous relationship.

I think that horse has already bolted. Then end the relationship, stop being a doormat. Please don't go down that road, more often than not, the exact same scenario you are experiencing now happens anyway because feelings change over time and that person you were initially interested in...

I know it drives me nuts, my other online community is very prone to it and people tend to make claim on people they don't even know, that is why there is much more fraudsters lurking about the place looking for naive couples....

If I have a nice date but I just did not feel an attraction I would write a nice note to them thanking them for a lovely date and wishing them well. If the date was a hot mess that I felt like walking out on, than I take the silent road.

I think so. You tend to see, 'OMG, I used a veto! Now what???' somewhere after 'We opened up our marriage x months ago...'

I don't think so either.

I think there is a possibility that considering the husband has been displeased with the veto, and has a history of being dishonest, it could be said that he has a habit of agreeing to things he doesn't really agree with, because he perhaps does not feel comfortable with being honest with his...

Except there is a huge difference between a person pulling back and deciding they need to work on themselves to make themselves a better poly partner, and a person being told, 'You are bad at this. I am obviously brilliant though, so you can't do what I can do...' It might be fair enough, but...

I'm sorry, what? Not wanting to hear about what her metamour is like in bed is bad now? It is a personal thing! I wouldn't like to hear it. Also, I would certainly be seriously ticked off if a partner of mine were sharing what my orgasm face looked like with another partner. I don't care how...

Considering she was using condoms with the bf and trying to get pregnant by her husband, the likelihood that it is the bfs baby is rather slim and taken with the rest of the evidence it just looks like another tool to control the OP.

I don't know what your wife's issues are but Poly can be very stressful at first and it really is not the best time to start up with Polyamory if she is thinking about counselling, at the least your family could be dramarama straight off the bat. Don't put your friend through that, if you care...

Good, than don't feel guilty or sullied, think that you are lucky to have that support to lean on. :)

How does she feel about the situation? Is she sickened by him? Has she been supportive?

May I ask why? Sorry, I don't know the background. I don't blame you for feeling out of sorts, though. :mad:

Agree 100%. Assume nothing! Evil-minded exes will use anything against you, and your child will suffer. End the relationships you have for now, at least. No relationship is ever worth losing your child over, even if you are in the throes of NRE. Please.

I would suggest them seeking in the swinging community, not because I don't believe that a FWB relationship couldn't possibly be considered Polyamory, but because I think swingers would meet their needs better. Many swingers are friends with their lovers but they also prioritise their dyads, so...

Wow, how absolutely dreadful. (((hugs))) I am really sorry to hear this. I missed this the first time around and had no idea it was an old thread. I just read it from the beginning. I was just going to reply to you saying how much FJ seems like my ex husband, same personality type, very...

You know I think you'll be fine, you seem to be taking things in your stride and asking for advice. I think it is fair enough to schedule things this way, at least for now and your bf seems willing to read resources you ask him to read, you know a lot of people wouldn't bother! Kudos!