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Yeah that was really low OP.

Sorry, to me, he just sounds like a big sad old drama queen. You are letting him get away with acting that badly because you like him. But all that drama? It's just not very sexy, is it?

I had the same thing happen, except it was a private forum, my partner at the time was made a moderator and got access to it and proceeded to read all the private things I wrote. I was horrified. :(

Open or closed doesn't really bother me, I do prefer commitment and family togetherness though.

Thank you for writing this. It is a unique POV. :) I have seen that quite a few times from women. They say that they respect their partners' marriage so much, and know that "it comes first;" they "know" they are secondary because they are "new," but still there are problems with the "thirds"...

It's too soon to think of moving in with your new partner, let the NRE die down, you might find that time and stability cause a change in your husband far more than anything you say, i.e. Actions speak Louder than words.

Just... enjoy the feeling? I don't know what exactly you want to hear. You're aroused. Not to be dismissive, but, so? Lots of people get aroused when they see physical intimacy. That is why there is a porn industry. Of course it's normal. Some people would consider it a plus that you are not...

Hey Kevin, just an FYI, there are two languages spoken in Belgium, French and Flemish, which is Dutch with different regional dialects, it was all considered the lowlands once. Natja - been there, done that ;)

Welcome Bez, I can imagine you are tired, running back and forth, I don't know what property values are like in Belgium but in the UK, it is SO expensive to buy/rent a home, much less a larger home to suit a poly family. I hope you can move in together soon. Natja

This is how I operate also, I am old fashioned that way and I am very happy to be able to get along with many different people across the social spectrum because I stick to it. I am also lucky enough to live in a liberal country where I have been out completely and not been insulted and/or...

Hello there and welcome, there are a few of us over here in Blighty so you're not alone!!! :)

Not sure why the desire to be 'exclusive' if as Poly people you accept that exclusive does not equal commitment. I wonder about the desire to fall into the safety of monogamous thinking and behaviours that seem safe but are actually attitudes extracted from the status quo, like having to have...

It's ok, thank you for apologising. My sister and I live in the same building. But most of our family live abroad. Yes, emotional support is important, I am a great believe in the 'It takes a village' and I prefer to have a lot of loving people in the life of my children, that is one of my...

Thank you, I read that thread. To summarise, BlackUnicorn came into polyamory looking to date couples, but had no experience doing so. Then she seemed to end up in many various configurations, but at no point did it seem she dated a male and female couple, though I think she had a man and a...

And that was a whole bunch of precious time wasted. There is nothing I can find. If you can point me in the direction of these second-time-around unicorns, I would be much obliged.

I will do that, thank you. Always? How is that any less of a generalisation than what I have been saying?

Honestly? I think it is because most of them don't know what they are getting into. I have not know of any repeat single "Unicorns" (please, if you are out there, come out of the woodwork) ... I have though heard of some married women who have been interested in couples but find often enough...

Yes, and yes, I would, and frankly the rest of that is so offensive and hurtful to me I can't even... I am a single mother by choice, btw. I have never been awake for 72 hours (perhaps I don't have the demon baby gene but neither of my daughters have done that) and I am pretty certain that if...

Hey Spock, It seems you are quite a social person. Well so am I so I understand :) Childcare hinders my opportunity to socialise much also so we are in quite a similar position so feel free to talk to me. Having a friend to talk to and offload on might take some of the pressure off of your...

Whether it is useful to you or not isn't the issue. It is whether the definition used within the polyamory community is a positive or negative one.