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You are so shallow...I feel like a piece of meat. But at least a pretty one. Your vocabulary was never in question, Wacky Ducky.

Heehee..you said 'poop'.

I don't see a huge amount wrong here...she didn't say yes or no upfront, she just wasn't sure. Sometimes you can only decide if you're comfortable with something after you throw yourself in headfirst. Although 20-30 texts a day is a bit intense.

So things are looking more promising on pof. I'm been in contact with a few girls who've questioned the poly thing and fall into one of 3 categories: - 'ugh, yuck, go away' - lots of questions, trying to understand how it all works - 'omg, this sounds amazing!!!' There seems to be noone I've...

I see it as being not dissimilar to the primary/secondary model. Someone I would treat just like a mono girlfriend...but we would both potentially have other partners. I'm not desperate for 100s of partners...I just like having the option to explore as and when the desire takes me.

Although the thread was about online dating, it can easily be expanded into 'when do you mention the poly thing with new partners'. And yes, some people use the internet to find new relationships. Some people use bars. Some people use work. Some people use their train spotting and stamp...

Thanks. What you're saying really resonates. You love being in a relationship, but it's like you have to hide a part of yourself and hope it stays dormant. You value honesty and trust, yet you find yourself in situations where you cross boundaries that you shouldn't be crossing with...

Thanks for giving me my first and second proper 'lol' on the site. The idea of the romantic Valentine's for 3 has amused me greatly!

Although I'm a man, you have pretty much described my previous relationship history - at least in terms of the feeling that something wasn't quite right in mono relationships, and having to hide certain things that I was doing, and feeling guilty about that. I am currently at the stage where...

So the first day of my poly openness on pof hasn't been overwhelming. I sent a few messages out, a few profile views occured...but no responses. That said, I never got that many messages beforehand. My profile in fairness was pretty polarising before I put the poly stuff in. Also do you...

Fair enough...your gracious touche is enough for me. I can only imagine the level of hurt I would have caused you by making you realise your mistake. I am feeling remorse for that right now, so please accept my apology. Have you considered that maybe my thick-skinnedness is all a front, and...

I never said it was...if you reread what I wrote you'll see what I mean. Don't worry...I will accept your apology ;) Anyway, everyone thanks all for the tips. I've now updated my pof profile to make the very first line a statement on my poly nature, including a link to the site posted earlier...

You know...that's not the worst idea I've ever heard. I think I will get about one email every 6 months by putting that stuff down on paper (well, screen..but you know what I mean) - but at least it will mean I don't have to go through the relentlessly tiresome discussion about mono vs poly...

Thanks for that link Gala...interesting and useful. Although I feel I'm not even at an advanced enough stage to talk about models of open relationships...right now it's 'I'm not enough for you? You're the devil!'

No, there is no chance of meeting...unless I were to do a massive turnaround and tell her that I've changed my mind and that mono is right, poly is wrong, and that all polys are bad (including parrots). She pretty much said as much that humans have insecurities, jealous and fears and that mono...

Online Dating...When to Mention Poly? Earlier today I was talking to a girl off plenty of fish. We were getting on pretty well and a meet was inevitable. I think I mentioned that I get bored of the same thing easily, and she commented that I'd never be happy with one woman if that was the...

I do agree that you may have opened Pandora's box here...I imagine to tell her to close it again will be difficult, and even if successful, will ultimately cause resentment. I do think that perhaps your wife and the other guy could have tried harder in that situation. I would like to think...

I think that your real self is always shining through. You can fool people for a while, but if you're needy, it will become obvious no matter how much you try to pretend otherwise. Conversely, if you're not needy you can do stuff that would normally be perceived as needy and get away with it...

Next time you're texting, just call her up and have a chat. Don't have any specific goals in mind, except just to enjoy a fun, light hearted interaction (although if you find yourself getting into serious stuff at some point, just let the conversation goes where it wants). Then when the convo...

Ok...I'm wary of offering advice here, since as a poly newbie, people tend to jump all over it and say 'you have no right to offer advice as a newbie'. However I'm not a newbie in general relationship terms, and what I have noticed before is that people often accuse you of being controlling...