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What a bunch of humourless crap. Some of you need to get a grip and realise they there is a real world outside this forum. A real world where on dating sites, there is not a separate option for sex and gender. Just one. Where if someone puts female, they expect to meet what they consider to be...

We don't allow attacking of personal character, but we don't like ignorant know it alls. You even contradict yourself in the same post. Good one. We should redefine the dictionary definition of ignorant to be 'does not agree with the angry scratchy cis-puss'. I've given advice in 2 threads...

No I'm sorry - I've been on other forums and not experienced the level of aggression or pettiness that some people like to display on here. Especially around terminology. And creating intended offence when none was meant. Twisting posts around so that the meaning comes out in the worst...

What was it you said about assumptions, cis-puss? I have a number of trans friends, and this is an issue we all agree on. Some of them have come to this conclusion because of having had problems after not being upfront in the past. So I should go on the date with the trans girl, pretend I'm...

In the real world outside the forum, the term 'woman' is not usually considered offensive. Just like if a man talks about dating a woman, it is assumed he is talking about a cis-woman and not a trans-woman. These are fair assumptions to make, because they are how the majority of people live...

Sigh. You're lucky I'm a cat person. I don't see why it's ignorant if a person says 'I'm expecting to meet a woman' if they are informed if their potential date does in fact, own a cock. Just because the trans woman sees herself as no different to any other woman does not mean that the man...

You raised an excellent point, if you do say so yourself. ;) Let's say a guy meets a woman on a dating site, who says she is a woman, but happens to be trans. The guy is expecting to be meeting a woman. Whatever your view on whether a trans woman is the same as a woman, he is expecting a woman...

Thank you for explaining this better than I did. I think most people can understand the point I was making, which I will restate - if a way of life causes you to feel more negative feelings than another way of life, then the first way of life is possibly not for you. Unless of course, as the...

This amused me slightly. I was just speaking to a girl off plenty of fish tonight on the phone for the first time. I'm trying to imagine at which point in the conversation I would have inserted the phrase: 'Btw, just so you know... I don't want to date a trans woman. Are you a trans woman?' I...

The nature of upfront is that it happens beforehand, not after. However, sorry for derailing your thread, since in fairness you did ask how to comfort her. Give her a cuddle? Best way I can think of. Some people are going to accept her and some won't...that is a constant I'm afraid.

I don't see the point in all this. Is that what happens on here? People desperately nitpicking in an attempt to 'win' arguments? I think my point was valid, simply that if being poly causes you more bad feelings than not being poly, then perhaps it isn't for you. If you want to 'win' the...

Actually I completely agree with this. But most people don't want to make the effort of going through intensive, hard personal growth.

Where did I say that you'd never have any insecurities if you're poly? If you're in a poly relationship and you're jealous, your insecurities will be likely prodded far more often than if you're in a mono relationship. Hence the reason I suggested poly might not be for that person, because...

So I read that page. The points relevant to this can be summarised as 'a transgender person can see themselves as being a different identity to the sex they are assigned at birth'. However just because you see yourself as female does not mean that someone else will. Because this is such a...

I will let you invalidate my point of view, but I'm not allowed to respond? That makes sense. I have read/listened to everything that's come back, some of which makes sense, and some of which is frankly ridiculous. How some people can suggest that a person having a penis when you're expecting...

Yes, and my response was for her to be more upfront in the first place. Nobody seemed to like this. I think what you wanted to hear was, 'Those people are all so awful for rejecting her. Don't worry, just keep trying, blah blah.'

The whole 'you don't know if it will get sexual before you go on a date so it doesn't matter' thing doesn't really fly for me. The idea is that you are going on a date because there is potential romantic interest. There are plenty of men out there who wouldn't care if a woman was trans or not...

Don't mention it if it's not relevant. It adds nothing to the debate. Same as when you talk about 'sex' and 'gender'. You can talk about definitions all you want, but my belief is this: if someone is meeting someone that he believes is a woman for a date, he deserves to know if she was once...

This is simply semantics, and I don't know why it would annoy you. Obviously I'm talking about a girl, rather than a woman. It doesn't score you any points in the wider debate. When a birth is registered, there are 2 options, boy or girl. If the baby has a penis, it is a boy. To say I'm...

I'm not insinuating it. I'm saying it explicitly: trans women aren't women from birth. I don't see how anyone can dispute the fact that a baby born with a penis is not a woman from birth. My point was that some men are fine with this and some aren't, but you should have the right to know...