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I suppose it depends on the rules, but I guess it might be restrictive. What is important is to understand the spirit of the rule, not the letter of it. When you and your partners set forth these boundaries, did they explain why they wanted them? This is the heart of the matter. If you...

Mine originated as my handle on a bisexuality forum, and came to be my handle on pretty much every alternative lifestyle forum I join. It was supposed to come from the Esperanto, "kordindino" which means "one who is worthy of a woman's heart" but I made a typo when I was signing up. My...

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I second Redpepper. But, how often would this happen, as a true polyamorous quad? It just seems like there's such a prominent correlation between poly and bisexuality--I don't think I've ever been in a room with four polys where at least one wasn't bi. I'm curious if anyone here has been in...

Sounds like an awesome night! I don't think I could be that open in front of an audience!

Blood work My bloodwork came back last week, and it looks pretty inconclusive on the testosterone levels / insulin uptake front. I'm going to have to sit down with my doctor again and see what all of this means regarding my weight issues. We might be looking in the wrong direction. What we...

Welcome. This place is a great sounding board, and I know you'll get a lot out of it!

Sadly, never had a poly relationship last much more than 6 months in the past. I'm hoping to break that record now.

Take a few deep breaths, and let it all sink in. Your boyfriend loves you. You've been together a long while, and you'e about to embark upon a move with him. Maybe what you need is fo him to verbalize his affections more? I know that sometimes I question someone's feelings for me unless they...

This is one of my favorites, by a poet and professor who taught me a lot about inspiration. To Dorothy by Marvin Bell You are not beautiful, exactly. You are beautiful, inexactly. You let a weed grow by the mulberry And a mulberry grow by the house. So close, in the personal quiet Of a windy...

It sounds like this girl is a complete child. If she doesn't have the maturity to decide what she wants for breakfast, how can she cope with a relationship? You're better off far away from her. This may be very hard for you to get DH to realize, but he needs to know better than to fall for...

This. So, Jenny is into BDSM in a big way, as a switch. I can only domme to the most pitifully self-abusing subs. I love being a sub. Then there's Alex... who just doesn't get it. He knows that these kinks are big for Jenny and me. We indulge his kinks, and he wants to do the same for us...

Congrats, for one. I have one suggestion: never assume you've gotten everything figured out, because just when you think that something is good and you lean back and let things roll--that's when someone puts a stick in the spokes. Always be conscientious about your partner and this new friend...

My dream involves being able to spend time fluidly with Alex and Jenny, being able to hang out with either or both of them, and have us all be satisfied. And I want a primary of my own. To be perfectly honest, though, most of my dreams right now are less to do with my relationships and more to...

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Really, you have nothing to do with their relationship, even if you care for N romantically and S platonically. The ball is in their court to figure out what to do, but the truth is that S will never be happy being poly and N may never be happy being mono. If they realize this, they quite...

As part of our date, Alex and I ended up having a very long conversation about how I'm feeling in the relationship. He brought an exercise dealing with emotional needs, and that sparked up a good conversation on his part about making himself a better boyfriend. He asked me what he needed to do...

I feel for you, OP. I'm going through a lot of the pitfalls of poly right now. It's become hugely stressful for me, and after a lot of discussion we've come to the conclusion that there needs to be a serious overhaul in Alex and Jenny's relationship so that the three of us can work it out...

I'm a long-time OkC veteran. SandBoxRiot is my ID.

Days 2-3 Today I had my first doctor's appointment since July. I told my doctor what I was up against health-wise, and she set up an action plan for me, along with a series of medications she's going to give me and some healthy living plans I have to follow. We have a goal: get me to a...