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Most of the time, for me at least, it has everything to do with the worries in my head about bills, work, I forgot to call to have the furnace serviced. When was the last time the septic tank was pumped? Did I remember to pack the belt that matches the shoes I'm wearing to that client meeting on...

Yeah,the town I live in is one of those where everyone knows everyone. The first time I took Pumpkin to dinner all of the old ladies were talking about it the next day. It wasn't a problem - we don't keep it a secret that she lives with us - we just don't advertise that there is a...

I was surprised at how much I enjoyed just making out on the couch like a teenager again.

I agree that we are three broken people, and that is a bad start. This is definitely not the usual scenario. I don't think any of us thought things would go this way.

Cookie and I are in counseling. Individual mostly, occasionally couple's counselling. Pumpkin should go, but doesn't.

I text every morning and evening with messages and pictures. Sometimes I have time for a call if my flight is delayed or if I'm taking a train.

Is that some sort of misandrist dig? That men can't wash their own clothes? I have no problem washing my own clothes, but when it's left up to me, I just leave 'em in the suitcase until the weekend and do it then. By the time I get home, I'm too tired to do much besides shower and go to bed...

Got back last night from two weeks away. 2023 financials. Accounts won, accounts lost. Why we won, why we lost. 2024 planning. Lots of training. Lots of spreadsheets and slides. Add in "networking" at the end of day (continuing to talk business, but doing it with a drink in your hand) and...

My wife and I didn't go looking for a unicorn. The unicorn came to us. We weren't even thinking about a poly situation, but when my wife's friend brought up the idea, my wife started thinking that it sounded like a good idea. Then she brought the idea to me. It's not all rainbows, though. The...

Is it? If someone is using two toys while imagining a threesome, isn't the scenario playing out in their mind what matters?

I missed the original thread, so I'm not sure what it was about, but as far as AI in a relationship-- part of poly is getting your needs met. If AI fulfilled a person's needs, than maybe that is something. I don't know... You can buy toys that mimic sexual organs. If AI mimics the emotional, or...

For me, it's all about touch. A hand brushing across my back or fingernails gently scratching my skin will turn me into a puddle.

I agree. Another reason I had become withdrawn. I extend a lot of grace to Cookie because she has been so stressed and depressed for so long. There really is no help out there for the parents of special-needs kids. It's just a constant hamster wheel of case managers stopping by for an hour...

With Cookie, if I ask, she'll say that I don't pay attention and don't understand her - I should know what she wants without asking. And that asking what she wants to do is putting the burden of planning on her. With Pumpkin, she'll just shrug.

I blame the constant messaging from advertising, TV, movies, and social media telling women that love is best expressed through things like diamonds and lavish resort vacations. Cookie has struggled with comparing herself to her friends on Facebook - the friends with neurotypical kids that...

Cookie at least has fallen victim to the brainwashing - if I don't do something special, she'll be upset. I've always hated how stores mark up everything like flowers and candy because they know men are expected to buy it.

With Valentine's Day coming up, I'm wondering what to do for the girls. Should I plan a dinner out for the three of us? Should I take each one out individually? Does Pumpkin really care if I take her out? I have trouble reading her feelings. I think her preference would be a romantic date...

I still attend church (almost) every Sunday with both my wife and girlfriend, and even though the old ladies whisper, no one has said anything to me about it. I do feel strange about breaking the oath I made to my wife in the very same church over twenty years ago, but getting a girlfriend was...

I relate to this. I still feel a sense of loss for my old, heteronormative, monogamous marriage, and a sense of loss for the image I had of who my wife was. Over twenty years, I never looked at another woman. Then one day my wife told me she had feelings for her friend, and asked if I would...

@Bobbi , thank you so much for your perspective. It has helped me to gain some understanding into my wife's feelings for her friend.