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  1. phantazmagoria

    Closed triad

    Random question for you all .... do you guys participate in threesome sex as well as one on one sex? If so .... assuming your threesome sex sometimes might involve the penis entering one vagina, exiting, and then entering the other vagina .... do you guys ever experience yeast infections from...
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    i agree!!! i would love to chat more as well!! My name is Angela too! :D

    i agree!!! i would love to chat more as well!! My name is Angela too! :D
  3. phantazmagoria

    Closed triad

    I have thoroughly enjoyed reading this thread - to the point of tears. This is exactly what we have too ... me and the husband share a girlfriend. she is his, she is mine, she is ours, and him and I have each other. 4 relationships essentially. And even though we've only been together for 8...
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    Coming out

    I appreciate the input. It gets tougher and tougher to remain in the closet with our families. I met my girlfriend's dad the other day, and she had to introduce me as a friend. I understood completely, but the situation sucked. Perhaps I am expecting the worst, and maybe our families wouldn't...
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    Coming out

    Coming out advice Does anyone have any advice on coming out to family, parents, friends, coworkers, etc.? It bothers me to no end that I have this beautiful and successful triad relationship, and feel like I can't tell my mom or dad. And my girlfriend feels the same. Any advice about coming...
  6. phantazmagoria

    keeping score - trying not to

    Great advice guys! Thanks! :)
  7. phantazmagoria

    How do I have this conversation?

    I was that woman for a while. It was a very hard decision to let them have sex without me. But I did. And it was hard. Lots of panic attacks. I found out that the only way I was ever going to be okay with it was to let them do it. That doesn't help you, but I just wanted to share that. I think...
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    keeping score - trying not to

    I'm not exactly sure where my jealousy/anger/competitiveness is coming from - that is something I've been soul-searching since day one. I thought my self esteem was pretty good, but feeling these feelings indicate something is going on, and I am in therapy for it. :) And I've come a very long...
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    keeping score - trying not to

    I find myself always keeping score and getting upset about it. Like .... "you had sex with her two times this week and only 1 time with me" ... that kind of stuff. It makes me angry, sad, jealous and insecure if my numbers are behind hers. Obviously, its not a good thing to do, so I'm wondering...
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    Coping mechanisms?

    I just feel like I'm never going to be truly okay/chill with it... like I'm just enduring them being together. I question whether I'm poly at all sometimes. On some level, yes, I'm happy they are spending time together, but for the most part, I'm just trying to "survive" it. That all sounds...
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    Coping mechanisms?

    I'm curious about coping mechanisms too. Especially when trying to sleep. My husband and his girlfriend usually stay up a lot later than me. I'm just not a night owl. However, I usually start tossing and turning trying to fall asleep, obsessing about what they're doing in the other room, feeling...
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    Seeking Triad Advice

    I think she is feeling sexually hungry, but at the same time, wanting to build our relationship. I think she's afraid that if she has sex with other people it would mess up our dynamic. And I think she understands me being hesitant about her and my husband having sex alone, but at the same time...
  13. phantazmagoria

    Seeking Triad Advice

    I'm just scared. And it's only been 2 months. Still figuring things out. Learning as we go.
  14. phantazmagoria

    Seeking Triad Advice

    Bio: I am a woman, married to my husband 10 years. I started dating a beautiful girl 2 months ago. We all date each other: me and him, me and her, her and him, and the three of us. Question #1: She and the husband have had sexual relations without me, but not penetrative vaginal sex. I know...
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    Hello! I just read a post you had about your triad. I think one of the reasons I haven't posted...

    Hello! I just read a post you had about your triad. I think one of the reasons I haven't posted much in this forum is because the nature of my relationship is not the norm and I fear judging. I don't understand why triads are viewed in a negative light, but alas, it is what it is. I've been in...
  16. phantazmagoria

    Dealing with feelings of being left out

    In the beginning when I was fine with things, I was eager for them to develop a bond. Her and I had already spent a lot of time together, getting to know each other. I wanted them to have that too. And when they did, it made me happy. I wasn't forcing it, it just was a natural happy. I was like...
  17. phantazmagoria

    Dealing with feelings of being left out

    @MsChristy .... yes I have communicated. They are both super understanding ... but I'm feeling like I'm always causing drama in the relationship because I just can't "chill the fuck out".... but I want to more than anything. I hate feeling like a drama queen.
  18. phantazmagoria

    Dealing with feelings of being left out

    Hello, everyone. I am not a huge active user, but have recently been reading more and more posts. It's so helpful to have this forum to help me along my journey. A lil backstory... I am a girl, been married to husband for almost 10 years. we've dabbled here in there with the poly lifestyle...
  19. phantazmagoria

    I see you are in NC. :)

    I see you are in NC. :)
  20. phantazmagoria

    Poly-Dating: How to meet like-minded people

    Okay... I am going to work up the nerve to ask out the cute redhead at the mall. In the meantime, I am sort of interested in OkCupid, but scared of my Dad finding my profile, since he has one! Are there any other sites that are good? Thanks.
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