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Just a short update. Sward's and my time is still severely limited right now. I don't like that, but I can't do something about it. Everyone is immersed in work and obligations. Waiting for the weekend to come. Tuesday was my birthday. The day itself was hectic but in the evening we were...

Oh dear ... honestly, I feel for you. I know how you go in circles when you feel for someone who is just unsure of what he feels for you. Especially in this situation with seemingly lots of NRE going around. This is ridiculously fast. You don't care for your own well being and try everything to...

Hey there :) In regard to the counseling, we knew a therapist when we started out who was a friend of ours. We told her about our 'problem' and what we may do about it. After two weeks and some updates on our part, she told us that she would be out of clients if everyone were like us. Meaning...

No, it's more like strange whims, sometimes moodswings and peculiar ideas and such. You will never be bored with me by your side ;) Great that it is an amusive read. Good that you are able to pinpoint so precisely what is bugging you and maybe even why you feel that way. Stay open and talk...

It surely was one :) For example this bit could have been exactly what he told us back when things started. It wasn't so much the thought of me being with another, but me not being with him. We have always been a clingy pair, loved to spend time together and never separated often or long...

I think the last time you came here, someone already told you that you can't take care of the communication between the guys. This advice hasn't changed. Stop going in between them and just put your foot down, tell that this isn't working for you and schedule some weekly talk-time for the two...

You so remind me of my husband :) He had similar reactions when we started out on our poly journey. Glad to read about other positive experiences. ^.^

You are so sweet, thanks for your sympathy. I am better, we are coping and working on handling the empty space she left. I will steer clear of whelps for now, because I know that I will ultimately want a new dog in my life, but the thought just doesn't feel good for now. Both of mine have just...

Don't mind the stars, most people who are reading don't even know that there is something like a rating method and some just have strange ideas of what should be written on here (I got PM's telling me to not be so positive as it was fuelling false expectations *shrug*) I have to say, I love...

You are welcome :) That new bit of information is a bit clearer, at least from my point of view. It's obivous that you will never form a triad (three persons, all involved intimately with the other and in love) but a vee relationship seems possible, especially as everyone at least cares for the...

Indeed, the terminology is a bit misleading. I guess you meant MFM relationships in general, not the special kind of polyandry (married to many men). I can't say that this has been the sole problem when someone was coping badly with the news that I have a husband and a boyfriend but especially...

Ah dear, this could be a problem in the long run. As you already feel that it is upsetting you to eventually end this relationship with your Sec/Co-Prim I guess, if I take my own situation as some kind of basis of comparison, it will cause you even more hurt when you finally have to make that...

Hey there, welcome. It seems as if the solution for your problem is quite easy but I will try to point to the discrepancies I see in your post first. If I see it right, it would come down to J putting up with the situation even though he doesn't feel comfortable in it, as long as you...

Farewell Our old lady was put to sleep. It has been an emotional week and I don't feel that great right now. I have to admit that I am calmer now than I have been before the decision was made and especially calmer than the day Sward brought her to the vet, but I don't really know how to handle...

I see this a bit different. I am one of the persons who forgive but hardly forget. This doesn't mean that there is no redemption, but it does mean, that even if I say I will forgive what was done to me, I won't forget that this incident happened. It doesn't mean that I bear a grudge but it does...

Ah dear, the same in our case. We even wrote on our invitations something along the lines of "Hey there, we want to get married. No, we are NOT pregnant." :D We didn't think of marrying each other till our 9th year. None of us was into that stuff, we knew that we will stay together and that...

Thanks for this comment from the sidelines. Most of your points regarding the gf are exactly what came to (my) mind when reading about LR's situation and problems with her. What I find most disturbing is the love-hate element I found whenever LR told us about Maca. I discussed this with my...

Welcome. First of all: breathe :) You are in a relationship with two men who seem to have some kind of tolerance for the current situation as long as the end is foreseeable. That should be the main issue you need to discuss with both of them. Because as it seems, you three have very different...

Hey there, welcome. I will answer this question from an extremely subjective point of view; mine :) I obviously (my own story may shed some light on the direction I am coming from), would always say that poly relationships are about and live through love, openness, honesty and respect. Have...

Ah dear, sorry to hear about this development. May these virtual (((hug)))s give you some positive vibes and I hope that you will be able to overcome this messy situation as healthy as possible. :(