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I have been trying to think of something to post and there isn't much going on in our lifes that seem post-worthy, kind of. But as I started to think negatively again, as soon as I thought about visiting this site I wanted to make a happy post, to remind me that everything is good in our case...

Well, some thoughts: 1. Try to remove yourself from this situation. You can not handle them together well, and you ask for reassurance while she is occupied with him. Generally speaking, it is fine to ask to not be completely ignored, but I would feel highly disturbed if my husband would have...

Indeed, we (Germans)wear the engagement ring on the left ring finger and switch it to the right one as soon as we get married. To answer the orignal question: I wear two rings. The wedding band on the right side and a partner ring on the left. There was no real discussion, we got those rings...

London, you could be misunderstanding what the point has been; if I am reading correctly, Schroedingers cat was pointing out that mono and poly relationships need some "work". Not neccessary more work but you have to tend to every relationship to keep it alive and healthy in one way or another.

I would like to second Jane. I know that some see it as "completing the picture/puzzle," but I would be perfectly happy with any of my relationships as a two-person one. That special criteria is the reason why I knew that it would work for me in the case of my husband/boyfriend. If a partner is...

This matter of choice ... do you really feel that this applies here? You yourself said, that poly chose you. For me, it sounds like asking "Why do you chose to love?" or "Why do you chose to have a realtionship with other human beings?" I personally believe that I can not choose what I feel; it...

The baby girl is lost. I won't go into detail why I am so confused and moved by this hard fate the parents have to experience. It feels wrong and threatening. _____________________ Lin and I had a poly related discussion. Or better: it was more along the lines of an open relationship of...

I am so sad today. A mother (probably) lost her baby girl, she was two days old. It is such a shock I am really speechless and can not find the right words. It looks like SIDS; they tried to reanimate her for three minutes, but her brain seems to be dead by now. Everything about this case...

Totally right, Annabel. That way it makes much more sense and I have to agree. And it is a mono relationship thing as well, because this is an old relict of Sward's and my relationship. Every time he is stressed because of seasonal working schedules or I am occupied with my studies/work, we...

I don't yet know if I am a 'believer' in regard to this procedure, but it seems to work for us. The first date was a success. It was just about an hour long, but we were able to use that timeframe effectively and had fun. We scheduled two dates a week for now and agreed to see how that goes. I...

I am not satisfied right now. I haven't been for quite some time in regard to one special aspect of Sward's and my relationship: We have got such a bad timing. It is really unnerving and right now especially, as we haven't got much time together generally at the moment. And this is doubled by...

Hey you two *waves* Yeah, you are right, happiness should be worth some celebration, fuchka. Therefore, to not have another month of silence, just a short notice: After some hectic days, I have had a day full of laziness, love and sex and am totally satisfied and happy. So much for happy, but...

Just a thought: "Come on, you are not stupid - you knew that is what I meant" made me smirk. Never assume ... say what you mean. Communication should not involve guessing. If there was a part where you yourself can see that one could understand it differently from what you wanted to say...

And that is why everyone is telling you that it is the attitude they are "bashing". The couple you are referring to is not unicorn hunting any more at that stage. They are a couple that tries to work it out with a third. But the kind of unicorn hunting couple the others referred to would just...

Already a month ... time flies by. I felt like updating but there is nothing much to talk about. At least if I stay within the limits of our little poly relationship. Everything and everyone is doing OK. Sward replanted our herb garden and prepared a little selection for Lin to use in the...

Your question directly relates to our situation back then. My boyfriend moved in with us right at the start of our V relationship, because he was long distance as well and we couldn't manage too many visits back and forth. I have a blog (see signature), feel free to read about our start. We...

Welcome :) I love to hear about other MFM relationships that work without many problems. I found quite some resemblances to our story and am happy that you decided to share your journey to your current relationship configuration with us. The analyzing and thinking too much part is totally...

Everything seems so complicated. Just like Sward said yesterday: Why can't it be simple from time to time? Do we have to have it this difficult each and every time we reach a new phase of our life? I know that this is more a momentum or better snapshot in time than anything but I am declined to...

Thanks for understanding, LR. That was why I wasn't able to understand the difference, because that's exactly how I saw it. Maybe there is too much interpeting going on in my case, but I got the impression of 'work in progress' as well. A poly person going through some rough changes and...

I just remembered that there is nothing poly related going on in her case, sorry for missing the 'we are open for it' bit. Fundamentally it doesn't seem to matter if the relationship classifies as polyamorous or monogamous as long as one person in it has a connection to poly, is that right...