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Extended family and 'outing' Thinking about extended family right now. As Christmas is around the corner and some birthdays and such, I will get in touch with my relatives on a more regular basis. I have thought about telling the younger ones on a consobrinus/a get together some months ago, but...

Maybe I am just the wrong person to answer to this ^.^ I have never 'dated', I just in a way 'found' interesting people in my direct surroundings and developed deeper feelings for them with time. I know two people that are interested in me on a more than platonic level, despite the husband and...

What about: yourself? The person you are? Why wouldn't that be enough? I really don't get your main problem, I suppose. Even in a mono world, someone who is dating you/wants to be in a relationship with you for the 'extras' you have in your life solely ... is that what you have been looking for...

Thanks Annabel :) Strange that you mention this point as well. It was never part of the original discussion but one of Lin's interpretation of the points the husband may have made. But the husband's enrage was more about his wife being able to accept me and even defend me when they argued...

Ok, things are sorted out. The result is … hmmm... I don't quite know how I should assess it. It was to some extend a basic incompatibility. We really found each others kryptonite and we saw that we can argue about this for hours, we can't really change the fact that we work that way. I guess...

Yeah, that is exactly what I am talking about. I know that I have been really emotional and unstable when this happened with Sward. But that must have been the age, I was about 18. I find it a bit strange that I am mostly curious and not that much upset about it. Need to look inot that to find...

Heated argument Ok, so we had our first big blow-up yesterday. There have been 2 or 3 arguments between Lin and me over the course of the last year, but this was our first “I am too upset to talk to you right now and will better go to sleep” one. And this is so new, that I am not as much upset...

Hello and welcome. If I got it right, nothing more than words have been exchanged between CW and yourself? If so, has there happened any breach of trust in any form by now? Because those use to be the factors that complicate any given poly situation multiple times. If the tears have been out...

Nothing pathetic about getting in high spirits because of a compliment a dear person makes. I only appreciate compliments from persons close to me at all in a 100% fashion. Don't care that much about the opinion of others :) Great that your 'pleaser-side' got petted ;)

Taking into account that we shouldn't open Pandora's box A friend of mine has been in quite a predicament and the last two weeks were filled with his confusion about the road to take and my advice and take on his situation. To sum things up, he met a young woman, fell in love, was involved with...

Jealousy I experienced some jealousy. Not the totally negative type and nothing in regard to a romantic relationship but because some connection between Sward and Lin *scratches head* Well, what happened. Sward and Lin started to share a hobby as of late and they are really into it...

:D Strange coincidence, indeed ^.^ I like the fact that this crush is more intellectual than physical though. Don't get me wrong, she is not looking too bad, but she is soooo tiny from my point of view. Every time we talk face to face after the course I search for something to sit on to lower...

Hey there. If I take my men as a reference here, I won't say that any of them is feeling something like compersion (for me translates to "being happy that I am with the other"). They are generally happy that I am happy but that hasn't got anything to do with my other relationship for them. We...

A little crush Life is still quiet at the moment. I am kind of unsettled about something I can't name, but I guess that is the lingering stress in regard to my seminar papers I need to compose the upcoming weeks. I can't pin down why I am feeling a bit uneasy. It's just in the back of my mind...

How I know this. :rolleyes: But from the other side. I was so uneasy around my men because I wasn't sure how to behave to not upset someone and not hurt anyone's feelings. My husband was like you. He didn't want us to be on our toes all the time, but it was a theme for some weeks/months...

Even if there are many definitions on the one hand that can co-exists next to each other, one knows what it is not quite well on the other hand.

Hey there, welcome. You are seriously doubting yourself here? I can't really see any reason why you should feel like you are overreacting right now. I would be through the roof. It doesn't matter what name you give this or he is trying to excuse his behaviour with ... he completely broke and...

Give her some time to dwell on this. My mother reacted nearly the same (even the lesbian argument was there in our discussion :rolleyes:). The only difference was that she was thinking it was my idea and I would suppress my husband to agree with me and my ideas. This is a shock for her. She...

And another thing on my mind: There are some reality shows on German TV that show polyamorous couples as of late. Not regularly but I have seen a vee constellation twice by now. Really unhealthy stuff in one case and nothing too positive in the other, they don't give a good impression or...

Oh dear! So glad to hear that you two are OK. That's really horrifying to think about. I often thought about what I would do or how I would react if a person dear to me would be hurt or (in the worst case) be taken from me so suddenly. It always gives me goosebumps and teary eyes just thinking...