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I got an email indicating there was a response to my "greetings" introductory thread and it was full of spam and links. I went to the thread in question, and there was no new message. The email was listed as being from [email protected]. Are you sending me spam or is someone hacking your...

You make some very good points and I totally agree with them. I sometimes teach painting classes and I run into the exact same problem with my art students. They all want to jump in and start painting. They don't listen to anything the instructor is trying to tell them, they don't want to spend...

Tell him in a very serious manner that he is not going to get laid here ever...so if that is why he is hanging around he should go home. :p

I chose "Olderwoman" because I wanted to be upfront about my age. I don't feel old (except when I do the math LOL), and I am in great health. Also, I've considered looking for a younger man for a relationship, so I thought the name "Olderwoman" might attract some interest LOL -- but I would...

Thanks, redpepper. FlameKat, I have to laugh at you calling my style "abrasive," because I am so much more mellow than I could be or once was. I think I explained to you privately why I don't automatically chirp "I'm sorry" to everyone who feels offended by something I have said. Allow me to...

eeewww That reminds me of how the older generation... (even older than me)... always assumed that a divorced woman was an easy conquest and desperately in need of their services. LOL

booklady78, I remember that post about the benefit of "having grandkids," etc. I wondered why a person would assume that a family who did not approve of the poly lifestyle would automatically be happy when grandkids appeared. There are just too many variables to make an assumption like that, I...

I have responded to this post in another thread so as not to be off topic. http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4621

Generalizations, Good or Evil? I am trying to better understand the rules, guidelines (and people) in this forum. I would like to be frank and honest and express myself freely but I'm thinking that may not be possible without getting negative reactions and unintentionally offending people. In...

No hostility here. It's just an observation of a very general statement. I only noticed it today because yesterday I was scolded and accused of being "offensive" for a much lesser generalized statement in another thread. Other than that, I may not have even noticed it or said one thing...

Very entertaining and humorous thread!:) But to visit the main topic I can answer this question from a non-poly viewpoint because I have never been in a poly relationship... but I have dated married men in the past who were cheating. The reason I dated married men: (and more than one at a...

Now there's a generalization. How about this one... ...men just don't want to share....

The word "love" to some people has a lot of baggage attached to it. In relationships it could mean monogamy, or ownership, or commitment. He will love you, but he does not want to love you in such a way to want to break up your marriage and take possession of you. I would let him handle the...

unwitty, I am glad to hear you have chosen to be honest with Ned. I am wondering how well has Tom been informed about the polyamory situation going on. Are you being honest with both of them?

WhatamIdoing, I want to direct your attention to your statement: "Bill always said go for it." If Bill did not mean it, he should not have said it. Perhaps he needs to deal with the feelings and growth that comes with being poly. I don't think you should waste energy feeling so bad for Bill...

I have always regarded jealousy as fear and insecurity. A jealous person is concerned for her own welfare and happiness. To lay down so many rules and restrictions in a situation like this is a path that leads to a blow up or break up or even disaster. By holding tightly to something, you will...

I have found wholeness and peace of mind through friends, spirituality and my art. I have not often found myself attracted to anyone within reach physically. When, on a rare occasion, I do feel an attraction to a man in person whom I've just met, he is usually married and unavailable. (rats!)...

Thank you.

Yes I'm sure it is. In this world I'm sure it is quite a challenge The dream was just the vacation I needed at the time though. It was like another world, perfect in every way. The world we live in here is not so perfect. I think of it as a lot more challenging. Thank you for your response...

I can understand your frustration. If I were in your place, I would try to put my attention elsewhere and stop fretting over it. (Life is too short.) I would give him the room he seems to need (he's taking it anyway) and find someone or something else to attract my attention. Live in the...