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Thanks Andy! I enjoyed your "rambling!" It cleared some things up in my mind about marriage and polyamory.

On your original question, I would have to say that honesty is always the only way I would personally go, what ever the price, but only because I value the truth, The rest of my response to this post will be sent privately. Next time, if you want a private response, please send me a private...

Yes I think you've got the gist of it. Tact has never been one of my strong suites. LOL. Just please try not to be offended by my tone. I am not the kind of person who walks on eggs around people. I just say what I think. That is just my style. I Don't take life too seriously. And I am...

Polyamory is an extremely simple concept. It's not rocket science. It only requires the ability to have compassion, understanding and love for other human beings, which I can see by your pent up anger that you are having a problem with. P.S. It was much more than a dream. It was a spiritual...

I would, but I don't know HOW or WHY anyone would misconstrue or be offended by the statement. I can speculate that perhaps because I am from a different generation there is a communication gap going on. (I am 61 years old.) Am I too old to be in this forum? I do speak from experience and I...

Seriously??? If you find "great offence" in that, then I am wondering if you could handle my honest conversation or any of my kind of real truth. (I seriously thought you were joking.) Is everyone else in this forum is that delicate and fragile? People are so quick to jump to conclusions...

I never claimed that I "do poly." I am not criticizing polyamory. (why do you think I did that?) I did criticize monogamy and marriage, but not polyamory. (My first impression is that everyone has a different take on what it is. ) I believe I have a very good understanding of it. I'm sure...

Okay then, you already know the answers to your questions and the solutions to your problem and you are just expressing yourself. Perhaps I should have known that (as you do wax a bit philosophical.) I see the question you pose and I also see that you do not need or want anyone to actually...

You are right and I am sorry I got off topic. I'll do some more reading. See ya around!

I hate to be the bringer of bad news but your expectations are impossible. Nobody can know "all of you completely and honestly." Being a woman myself I do understand the desire to be understood. I have always wanted to be "understood" completely. But that is just not possible. The reason...

LOL you are funny saying that you will "not be baited." (If I were fishing I would definitely think that I was getting a nibble since you have responded twice. ) But by all means, don't "defend" your lifestyle. Tell me why and how it works. (That is, if it is successful.) I was attempting to...

>>"What price is acceptable to pay to keep your own integrity as a whole person."<< I don't know how to answer this question. BUT If you can be true to yourself, being true and honest about who you are and what you want --on a daily basis --in as kindly a way as possible, and this still seems...

No, --I was just reading (on this forum) a thread expressing problems with this exact same situation I just mentioned. (So you can't tell me the problem does not exist.) I have no prejudices against polyamory itself. (Which I view as exercising the freedom (and ability) to truly (and...

I'm not sure I understand the question. :D People who find it hard to be honest, are probably people who are not proud about who they are. The solution is to work on being a better person.:p

I don't think my views on marriage are important or relevant. (I admit I am anti-marriage.) What is not clear to me is how polyamory and marriage are compatible. That is, if polyamory is about long term "love" relationships -- and not just a term for a couple deciding to have multiple sexual...

Granted, marriage can be a convenience and more sociably acceptable. But how many people pretend to be sociably acceptably married, and lie to the public, ~~while they live an opposite (sociably unacceptable) lifestyle and at the same time attempt to practice honesty with their spouse(s) and...

I am new to the term polyamory and I am not clear on WHAT exactly it is or what the proper definition of it is. If its just screwing around with multiple partners married or not, without lying about it, well, that fad has been around for the last 60 years. I guess then, its nothing new, I just...

I said: >>>If a "marriage" is really "open" then what is the purpose of the marriage other than financial benefits? Marriage for a woman is not all that beneficial unless she marries a man who has more wealth than her.<<<< If you get married LEGALLY you have involved THE STATE. ("THE STATE"...

About the reason/excuse: making sense "economically to be or stay married..." That is similar to how the Federal government controls and enforces its laws on the states by "bribing them" with federal funds. If a state wants to have more "home rule" and be more independent, they can't be taking...