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    Trinogamous Relationship / Polyfidelitous Triads

    There actually is a wiki entry for trinomial, which is the only thing I googled. Well, I googled "trinome translation" and found "trinomial". Then I googled "trinomial" to make sure it was the right word, since translations can suck without context, and it had a Wiki page, although it was only...
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    Trinogamous Relationship / Polyfidelitous Triads

    I agree. Just mentioning another word I've seen used. First of all, this is the second time only than I've seen the word "trinogamous" The first time I asked the person "do you mean 'trigamous'?" and got chastised ("Of course I don't mean trigamous! Trigamous would mean I have three partners...
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    Trinogamous Relationship / Polyfidelitous Triads

    They're not trying to say trigamous. Since it's a polyfidelitous triad, they're all being bigamous. The relationship is bigamous. They're trying to say trinomous, which literaly means "with three names" but is used to mean "with three people". Then they add "gamous" because they think "oh...
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    The Concept of Privilege - A Rant.

    Obligations are definitely something to consider. Not just with children (who are obligations generally shared with a partner, and as a result can lead to spending more time with a partner than another) but also parents or other family members who might be sick, or a very demanding job, etc...
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    The Concept of Privilege - A Rant.

    I think the times it's used as an accusation in poly contexts is when people act badly in order to preserve their privilege. It doesn't mean they're guilty of anything for having the privileges in the first place. But it doesn't justify acting badly. For example, if two people were in an...
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    The Concept of Privilege - A Rant.

    It's always difficult to come up with instances of your own privilege, as you mostly notice when you're treated badly, not when you are not, and I've been in a relationship or another for something like 10 years now. But here are a few I can think of: - I can mention my relationship status and...
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    BDSM discussion

    Was it professional dommes? I was just thinking of what I've heard people in BDSM relationships sometimes do when they are apart. It's also possible to send a text telling someone "go do this now" and then not request any proof, I guess. Definitely legitimate. It involves a lot of trust, not...
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    The Concept of Privilege - A Rant.

    I don't think that because we're already privileged in so many ways, we have to ignore things like couple privilege. There is pretty much always something worse in the world. It kind of reminds me of when people are, for instance, fighting for animal rights, and others go "what about human...
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    BDSM discussion

    Long distance, you can do things like require someone to go to the bathroom at work at a specific time and take pictures of themselves naked (for instance of their genitals) or even ask them to masturbate and film it. They'd send you the "proof", but really, they do it because they want to, so...
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    Starting my poly life

    Meera, Thank you so much for your message. As I'm sure you can understand, I've been stressed out lately and it helped a lot to read what you had to say. I think it's great that you read the whole thread and got the big picture, because of course there are details I forgot over the years, and...
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    Proposals in polyamory

    That's a great story! Congratulations. :)
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    Starting my poly life

    Okay, going back to the divorce. I was holding back on updates because, really, not much was happening. Summary since October last year: - October 2012: my lawyer sends an official notice to Raga's parents (his only known address) that we need his birth certificate. To my insistence, she adds...
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    Your most recent OKC messages. post em here!

    It's probably supposed to be one of these things when they give you a "compliment" that's actually meant to make you feel bad about yourself so that you're more likely to date them. Like earlier in this thread "I don't usually date plus size girl but I'd make an exception for you!" Since...
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    To Bi or Not to Bi; That's the Query.

    I think he's using "attracted" in a different way from the way I (and maybe you, nycindie) use it. To me, attracted means sexually attracted, in other words, that person or group of people can potentially make me horny, I can want to have sex with them. That's "attracted." It seems the OP's...
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    Gender-Specific Jealousy (Double Standard)

    I see the act as the same, but the wording as different, I guess. It depends more on my mood when I describe the act than the way the act happened. But I can see that, too.
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    Gender-Specific Jealousy (Double Standard)

    Yes, I didn't point that out specifically, but I absolutely use "fuck" for "have sex with" and gender of any of the partners is irrelevant.
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    Gender-Specific Jealousy (Double Standard)

    You can be penetrated by a woman. Whether you're male or female. But to answer your question, yes I can be more on guard when males are around than when females are around. However, since I'm a straight female, they are also the category of potential mates. Females I see as de-sexualised (as...
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    Gender-Specific Jealousy (Double Standard)

    Actually, I remember reading studies that within people in an opposite-sex relaitonship who didn't care about their partner having sex with one gender, but cared about their partner having sex with the other... both males and females, on average, were jealous of a male partner but not a female...
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    Gender-Specific Jealousy (Double Standard)

    I know that a lot of people don't like Franklin Veaux, but I find this article helpful in a general sense. Not a lot of specific practical advice, though. The advice seems to be, don't just endure it or you'll be miserable, but don't forbid it either. Allow it, but then ask for reassurance...
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    Online Dating… OKCupid... what a trip. What works for you?

    My guess is that we're missing some background, and that there is a reason of some sort for ManofDiscovery to hate BoringGuy. I'm guessing there is something other than this thread to warrant it. But I assure you, I too was shocked at MoD snapping like that for what seemed to me no reason at all.
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