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learning Yesterday Khas took the day off work and as it was the first day of school for the girl we spent the day with more talking. I think we got farther this time. See we have discovered we have completely different views of what marriage means. To me you marry someone when you love...

sounds like I would benefit from talking to your husband as we are in very similiar situations.... I wonder if I do the bottle-up thing? hmmmm food for thought!

Yes I'm tired! Tired of talking about poly. Tired of.thinking about poly tired.of the emotions the long talks the confusion and the pain. Most of all tired of hurting inside. Trusting in those words of experience by so many here that say it will get easier with time and communication...

Rough night, I spent many hours writing in my journal and thinking and reading on these boards other people's journeys. This morning I find myself looking at him and thinking... fuck, I'm really going to miss him. I am not going to stop trying, not going to stop finding what it is that hurts...

Our daughter is 15. We had no choice, as she saw the change in the way dad was treating B and wanted to know straight up why I would "allow" dad to flirt with my friend. We've been trying to explain it and get her to read some information, but mostly she sees the following connections: 1. Dad...

another day Yesterday we spent the day together at a Scottish festival .. Throughout the day I think I handled everything ok. I tried to stay true to my self and khas and bev, I had many moments of jealousy envy and insecurity and stepped away to look at other merchants while I got myself...

church

trying to get better at it is probably the absolute best thing we can do!

pretty good night I have spent most of the last 2 days reading Mohegan's blog. I envy your commitment to searching out your own fears and facing them. My daughter and B just came home from vacation Tuesday evening. They were heading to the same part of the country so shared flights to keep...

I decided today it's not about making love, it's about making life. The only thing that really matters is that we keep making life the best possible for each other and for ourselves and our family. I am feeling bitter and angry today, unlovable and all things ugly. So for today I will...

baby steps I decided to take a page from Anne Koller's book 'An unknown woman's and start this part of my life by figuring out who i am, I mean really am. I don't have a strong sense of self so how can I decide how I feel ? I want this to work, khas has decided to face who he his and his...

How important is self esteem in the creation of healthy, loving relationships? I don't think I have had a healthy level of self-esteem for a few years, but I have the same partner so in a way that is good. In other ways it is bad, as I have devalued myself, so I have been devalued.. now as he...

Your right in that we don't let each other explore talking out our own feelings without interrupting each other and internalizing. Personally the voice in my head never seems to shut up. Maybe the timer is a good idea, our daughter and B are both gone for a week so its heavy talking time with...

finding I have no desire to separate , khas is my husband and partner and best friend ... I know this can work, I know it can be good and fulfilling and all of that. I think one of my biggest issues is that I hate being alone, as a child of a single mother I babysat my 1yr old sister while...

Widow

ok, hopefully that is easier to read now..

So my husband (khas) and I have been married 10+ years, we have together raised (mostly) my 4 children. We started with nothing but each other and my kids, we worked together and fought and loved and survived to the point of have 3 kids raised and mostly on their own, only one 15 year old...

Hi, I am new to the poly world. I am married for 10+ years and have 4 mostly grown children. My husband has come forward as poly and we are trying to work through this. I am mono, hurt, confused, hopeless, hopeful and just lost...