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Exactly. We weren't looking for it (any of the three of us). It just happened. Honest. We did go out however and had a meal and declared to each other that 'we're in a relationship'. So at some point it went from 'it just happened' to 'this is real'. I do remember wondering what the other...

For the record, I completely agree with you. That behaviour is not particularly nice, or even ethical. We all have different ways of pointing this out, however. It's up to the moderators, I guess, to decide if some the reactions given fall outside the board guidelines. Venting, on the other...

I stand corrected. It was all very 'discrète'. Sounds like they met after his death. "François Mitterrand est mort depuis deux heures. A son chevet, que viennent de quitter Anne Pingeot et sa fille, arrivent Danielle et ses deux fils. Le moment est pénible. André Rousselet, l’exécuteur...

Or maybe it's her karma to fall into the manhole. Some people insist on smoking, no?

I have. They're quite good, and I have referred people to them as they cover a lot of good ground.

I don't believe that is the case. What may be the issue however is that you, and a few other posters, seem to have created a crusade against 'Unicorn Hunters'. This may not have been what you wanted to convey, and it may well be that your enthusiasm for dispensing your wisdom (based on hard-won...

Thanks for pointing this out, I agree totally. You're being quite blunt about it, but subtle hints have been of little use, I notice. Sometimes one has to draw line in the sand.

Velkommen :)

Could it be that to use a term that is "derogatory and condescending" might not be the best way to engage in constructive, amiable and helpful discourse? There might be nicer ways to get the message across. Just saying.

That might be wrong (the list came from a book I've got). I've found other references to the bulk of them, but maybe the authors were confused by this.

Here are some historical examples of people who had triad relationships, if that is of any use: Admiral Horatio Nelson Giacomo Casanova Jean Baptiste Poquelin (Moliere) Emma Goldman Jean-Jacques Rousseau Alexandre Dumas Admiral Lord Louis Mountbatten Oskar Schindler Jean Paul Sartre Simone...

:) They were probably just suffering from some serious wishful thinking and a touch of jealousy! (just kidding). But it's funny how some people react when confronted with something they might, in some deep dark corner of their soul, want to explore themselves if only they could. One of our...

Good point. We don't hide who we are, but we don't push it either. We simply act as if it's "normal", and that in itself gives a level of security even to those who are not comfortable with the situation. If nothing else, they know exactly where they have us (and who to call if need be).

Sharing experiences is one thing. Putting people into boxes and labelling them is another. Anyway, this is going nowhere - I think we're speaking completely different languages here. I've no doubt you mean well (and that is not sarcastic, in case you require reassurance).

Oh dear, oh dear. I consider myself suitable chastised.

GalaGirl, you're very cool and a real model of empathy and compassion. I'm in awe (and I mean that!).

And who is to judge what is unrealistic and what is not? What may be your impossible dream may be someone else's reality (and vice versa).

Exactly. Personally I like the extended family model, and it works for us. Sort of. Turns out that not all the children want the extended family, but that's another story.

Exactly. Sometimes I get the feeling that people are simply wanting to find a new class of victims to save - and a Unicorn fits the bill. It simply doesn't sit comfortably with these 'rescuers' to accept that a person (OK, most likely a woman) might able to make clear, rational and informed...

That's terribly good-spirited of you. :) However, I can think of a number of very unsuccessful ways to do poly that could well vie for the bottom ranking. Maybe we could all chip in and make a list of Poly Nightmares? How about this one for starters? "We're all equal..."