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I second this wholeheartedly. "There is a seemingly completely unconscious position of privilege being developed by certain polyamorous folk that is leaving them apparently completely incapable of relating to the people who don't do things the way The Populists seem to keep espousing things...

Well said!

Fair point :D

You said: There are others, you can search yourself :)

Nadja has said this many times.

Thanks for clarifying that. I concur.

A number of people asking about triads have found the responses they get here a tad harsh. I'm sure you've noticed this. The OP did use the title "Triads, Unicorns, Unicorn Hunters, sexual 3somes, etc" which I took to include Triads. This fascinating book contains data that you may find...

Here, I sense, is the core problem that many people might be experiencing with your (both of your) posts. Just because a triad didn't work out for you, and the fact that you are carrying unhealed pain from this, does NOT mean that a triad will never work for anyone else. This is a classic case...

Life's gotten very busy. Thanks for the insights, I'm leaving the board now. Happy polying!

It's also everyone's right to choose whether to express oneself politely or not. The term "bullshit" is, in many English speaking cultures, a rather impolite term. Others use it frequently in their normal discourse. It's always difficult to know exactly what someone is saying without having...

My wife and I went through a long healing journey that started with her hormones being completely out of kilter. PM if you'd like to know more - I would be happy to forward some info. We found that Natural Progesterone Cream was a life-saver. You might want to look into it, it can do no harm at...

That was a very interesting historical perspective. Thanks.

Fair enough. I do the same. Since I never claimed to be an expert, this comment however is outside the scope of our current conversation. What I have done, from time to time, is point out that some of my assertions are backed up by data. I've understood now that you, and some others, find this...

She just needs some Tina Turner. "What's love got to do with it..."

Well, that settles that then.

Care to share it?

Fair point. They could have mentioned that there were other options. Still, considering the mess that the BBC have made of the subject before I feel the article was better than most! I mean - watch out all you poor hapless polyamorous women out there :) ---------------------------------- But...

I didn't read it that way. The quad indicated that a veto agreement was THEIR setup, but I didn't see it generalised to all poly relationships. The counsellor was quoted as saying: "You can live in a monogamous institution and you can negotiate monotony, or you can live in a non-monogamous...

Indeed. "And every time you out yourself, you risk losing a friend," adds Charlie. "I'm preparing for 30 years of being made fun of." He's a realist - nice.

I'm referring to the fact that every relationship has an underlying set of agreements, assumptions and expectations, whether spoken or unspoken. This is the "fabric." When or more parties want to change any of these, it can happen either unilaterally: "I'm going to take a lover," or...