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You posted in the the life stories and blogs section, which has slightly different rules than the other two sections. People generally respond less in this section than the other two, unless you very explicitly say you want feedback and even then it's somewhat limited. I had to read over your...

Turns out he just had to sign in again and his profile was reactivated, with lots of the fetishes he had chosen deleted. That's better than what I had thought happened :)

The crap comment was in regards to Trump's hypocrisy, not the actions of the owner of Fetlife. I did read the latest statement and I agree, they do have good reasons behind the actions Fetlife has taken.

I think my dom's profile was a casualty of all this crap going on with Fetlife. I knew that his profile had a lot of kinks listed about age play, so I looked for it and his profile isn't on fet anymore. I haven't had a chance to ask him about it yet but since the newest post talks about how they...

I find it interesting that seashells are part of what you associate with being girly. I had some seashells when I was young, but the reason I had them and loved them was because I collected them at the beach the one time I visited my father's parents, who lived across the country from us (they...

You're welcome. I hope it's as useful to you as it was to me.

I read the book "Come as you are" by Emily Nagoski last year after seeing someone recommend it on the board a few times (I think it was Opalescent). It's all about women's sexuality, the science behind it, how we all are slightly different, etc. It was really helpful and eye opening to me to...

I feel like I need to better explain why I sext for my dom, if it was something that initially made me embarrassed. I wouldn't do it if it was something that I was only doing because my dom liked it, despite the D/s component to our relationship. In fact, I have rarely done it the last few...

I agree with Emm, at least part of it is just doing it, if it's something that you want to do, despite the discomfort, and it gets easier with time. My dom really, really likes it when I sext him and I originally was incredibly embarrassed by it, by me doing it, I loved it when he did it. For...

The hazard insurance should be whomever you have rental insurance with to cover the loss of your items if something happens to the rental house. I'd suppose that they want proof that you carry that type of insurance as a way of telling whether you will carry home owners insurance or try to get...

It's a fairly common budgeting technique, I've read quite a few budgeting blogs about it. Normally though I think it's used more often for roommates than romantic partners.

We recently changed our budgeting dynamic a bit to fit something like this into it. My husband's girlfriend and her husband bought a new house and my husband has a room there. He pays into the household budget. What I did was figure out how much of our money each of us brings in, figured out our...

My husband and I have merged finances and, for the most part, polyamory hasn't caused any more fights around money than happened when we were monogamous, which we were for 17 years. Transitioning to being poly was difficult for me, but that difficulty never happened in the financial area of our...

I think as long as you're open and honest about what you can offer and handle with the people who you are seeing, there is absolutely nothing wrong, at all, about wanting a casual, fun relationship. My longest relationship, outside of my marriage, is with Sam, my dom. He very much identifies as...

Rules may be different where you are, or they may have changed in the ten years since we built our house, but we didn’t have to pay mortgage insurance because, even though we borrowed 95% of the value of our home, we did under 80% on the traditional mortgage and the rest on a home equity loan...

That's what I first thought of too. I also thought that if you wanted to leave the gas insert in, so had to leave the area open, you could line two of the walls with bookcases and make it a little reading nook. I think one of the reasons it looks so out of place now is it doesn't seem to have a...

I'm glad you're more at peace with your decision today. It really does sound like you did the best thing for yourself. It would have been so much harder to do, even just logistically, once you moved in together. And it does sound like this is something that you didn't do spur of the moment like...

Thank you. I know that in my husband's case, he looked at the physical reality of our lives (own a home together, mingled finances, having children together) and felt like all those aspects should be enough to affirm my place in his life, totally ignoring the emotional aspects that pointed to...

<Hugs> My husband wouldn't admit that his priorities changed with his game changing relationship with his girlfriend for years. I admire you for being able to end your relationship with Blue when you needed to, listening to his actions instead of his words. I'm sorry it hurts. Edit: I know a...

So much for coming back to this later. Oh well. I only saw my therapist one more time after the first time this summer, for several reasons. I love my therapist and have built a lot of trust and history with him over the years, but I think with this particular issue, I need someone who...