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I'm so, so sorry!

Spork, I only can speak for myself and what I think on this topic and what I think the men I've been with, both currently and past, think, I don't know for sure how they think, because I haven't asked. My partner I'm with now, the only person I regularly have sex with right now, wouldn't be...

I have kids and the no young children is my preference also. My kids are 20 and 22, so I've been there, done that, and now find most young children to be exhausting, loud, and just not something I want to deal with on a regular basis. When my boys were young, I had no issues being around other...

When we first opened up our marriage, one of the men at the local poly support group found me on Okcupid and we started talking on there. There were a few red flags that made it so I wasn't really interested in dating him, though we did go on a first date, where even more red flags came up. The...

I am so sorry Claire! You are not a failure for recognizing that your needs weren't being met and making the choice, after a lot of discussion with your partner about how they aren't being met, to put yourself and your emotional well-being first. You've tried, really hard, to make your...

I understand this part too. My husband has always found it weird that I don't fantasize about anything when I'm masterbating. I enjoy the sensations and usually that's all that's on my mind. If I've had a really good sexual experience recently, I may focus on remembering that, but making...

I so understand this, especially the last paragraph. I identify as a switch on Fetlife, mostly because I don't really strongly identify with either the dominant or submissive label. Last summer, a friend with benefits that I've been seeing on and off for about 7 years, offered to switch our...

I hope my post didn’t make it seem like I was keeping the man I mentioned around to hurt him later. A lot of what I said only became clear to me about 3 months into the relationship and when I did realize it, I did immediately end the relationship. Some of what I said was only really apparent...

Have you met Army Man in person? If not, how attractive he is to you may be different in person than online. Some people just don't photograph well, others have an attractive energy around them, whatever that may be, that makes them so much more attractive in person than they are in photos...

I'm very impressed that you were able to see the pattern you have lived with in your relationship for years and take a stand for what you need and want from life. As a word of advice, from someone who made a similar stand a few months ago and is working on rebuilding her relationship with her...

Either I'm somehow really good at picking partners that are not as much into just their own pleasure, which I have no idea what I've done to pick them, or I'm just incredibly lucky and have never had a partner that wasn't at least as into my enjoyment as their own. Of course, part of that may be...

I'm glad he's willing to get the physical also. I have low thyroid production, which can affect all types of things. And once I started taking vitamin D because it showed up on a blood test that I was extremely deficient in that vitamin, all sorts of things were affected, like I no longer...

I'm going to repeat my suggestion of him going and getting a full physical, especially if he hasn't gotten one in a while. It's very, very possible that there's some type of imbalance at work in his body that's causing some of these things. If there is and he starts treatment before you go to...

Sometimes love isn't enough. Though he's certainly not acting like he loves you if he's constantly angry at you. Has he seen anyone to see if he's suffering from a hormonal imbalance or depression? I'd rule that out as the first thing I did. My husband and I got married when I was 18 and he...

My therapist also hadn't dealt with a poly relationship before but has been open minded and non judgmental about it. I asked him before I started seeing him again whether he thought he would be able to handle the fact that I was not monogamous anymore, because some people don't seem able to not...

I hope you can see that a lot of people post the happy things that happen and avoid posting the sad things. Even with the people who post the sad things, it's hard to convey the full emotions of what you're feeling through text. You're comparing yourself, who you know inside and out and know...

I've been meaning to start a blog here for a few days, so I have somewhere to process what's going on right now with me besides with my OSO, who I've been calling Sam on this board when I've talked about him. I'm a bit worried that if I don't have another place to process that I'll overwhelm...

That tattoo is really cool!

<hugs> I'm so, so sorry.

I understand why you'd consider the house, but I'm with Reverie and Leetah, that I wouldn't want to be dependent on this man for anything, let alone the roof over my head, regardless of what type of legal papers you draw up in terms of the lease. The lease only protects you if the person you're...