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And, furthermore, I kinda sorta resent the 'Don't wanna play anymore' title/concept. It indicates a lack of maturity and self-responsibility to call changing others' families and lives to benefit one's own selfish whims and desires 'play.' I consider our lifestyle, i.e., polyamory, serious...

I know weird stuff happens, but I find it hard to believe that any 50-year old woman would leave this country to go live with strangers in a country where she can't speak the language, and she has made outrageous demands, and those demands were graciously acquiesced to. She sounds to me more...

Something in this whole story isn't coagulating for me, iykwim.

That's pretty much the contract I am looking at, with modifications to fit our family.

I'm curious. Had they been poly before you, or is this their first time around also?

Right. Since slavery is illegal, they really are just sort of 'gentleman's agreements.' But they do help in that each party is able to define needs and limits and repercussions for the edification of the other. There are several online references and samples of contracts.

Thanks, NYCindie. Having lived in Texas so long, that metaphor makes perfect sense. ;)

first let me send you a big hug. Your feelings are what they are and are neither 'right or wrong'. They are yours. I, too, would feel some of the same that you are. I'm sure others will have better advice than mine but I think maybe you have to try to let it go just a little bit. I...

By the way, i think you were TERRIBLY BRAVE to even attempt this in a foreign country away from friends and family and all that you knew. I don't think I could have.

Very well said. :)

Okay, I'll bite. What's a cowgirl? I don't think you have to just 'accept it the way it is.' Any relationship should include communication with all parties being free to express their opinions and needs to the others. Part of the issue here, imo, is the way you are expressing your needs...

i would also like to say don't 'betray' your faith for any human being. Your spirit/faith is who you are.

it feels wrong to me, too, that he is hiding. Is there any way you can all three sit down and discuss that there is no need for secrecy?

I don't think it's a true comparison. It's very different when your SO is with someone else. I am not saying the reaction wasn't a bit over the top, but sometimes sharing is very painful. When I embarked on this folly with dh and his former partner, I had just had surgery, and he was unavailable...

When I met my dh, he was married to someone else. She was not poly and was forced into a bad situation-- either accept a somewhat poly lifestyle, or lose her husband altogether. He loved me, although he was willing to honor his commitments to her. I mean, we didn't plan to fall in love. Shit...

Essentially, you 'forced' him to ask you to marry him, to give up and walk out on his wife and kids. That wasn't part of your relationship agreement when you moved to be with him, was it? I am frankly surprised that he agreed. I don't think most people would. As for understanding his...

https://www.facebook.com/LadyScarlettFanPage?fref=ts i believe she answers the question beautifully.

well...polly is obvious--suzanne is my middle name so 'anna'...plus it's a play on 'pollyanna' the goodie two shoes...bwahahaha...yeah, that's soooo me. *snort snarf*

I just want to say hello. I am new here. I have a submissive hubby and a slave that belongs to me. We are on the verge of becoming a 24/7 family, with my men being 'brother husbands' rather than lovers. I will be submitting a contract for my slave to sign this week. It's all very exciting...

we have been married 3 years and met thru a polyandrous relationship. we are on the verge of bringing another husband/slave into our family with them primarily as 'brother husbands' and not lovers. It will be interesting to see how it all works out. I have actually known the slave longer...