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Agreed, and when I think about it, I recognize that. I'm just struggling to reconcile what I think and know vs. what I feel, and the sentiment, "Sio broke my heart," is definitely a way of conveying the resentment-building feeling, rather than how I understand the situation. I'm aware of it, and...

Talking with Sara that one last time took a bulk of that self-bullying off of me. I'd really felt like I had mismanaged Sio's episodes so poorly, and got caught up in them, that I'd unintentionally threw it at Sara. I still sometimes have to deal with that feeling of, "I let this happen. I...

There is a part of this that seems like a polyamory problem, at least in the event of one-sided break-ups amidst overlapping relationships. I turned to these forums for a few reasons, but I imagine someone here has ended a positive relationship in order to maintain a previous, perhaps...

It's been two years since Sio and I attempted poly, but the dissonance in our relationship is as strong as ever. I've looked through so many sites and articles, and all have such a bleak (and unacceptable) outlook on handling a one-sided break-up in poly situations. Especially when closing a...

The problems are recognized, communication is opened, and Lena and Grant both seem earnestly concerned enough to listen to what you're feeling. That's a positive foundation to build from. I am a bit concerned about you opting, against your own sentiment, to hang out with Grant's kid... Children...

(Paraphrased a bit) Even though I have zero real kink experience, and avoided commenting much because of that, you've reached a point where the relationship has become toxic. I do agree with most people here that forcing an ultimatum right now will force the issue, and most likely abruptly end...

Since dmorse didn't switch back to years at the end, I think he meant partner of 2 months, friend for 11 months. Still long enough to share some great moments, but also quite different than 11 years. Some clarification from dmorse might help. It's only been a week, but if there are any updates...

First, let's use some nicknames to help discuss this. Wife (Sixteen) and female partner (Friendly) are in a triad with you, correct? While it's understandable that you had some hangups on Sixteen and Friendly being intimate together, and without you, that is a common jealousy that poly...

I don't have a lot I can add to this topic, but I can say that after my failed attempt at poly with my wife, two years later we're still struggling with the pain and chaos it threw into our relationship. I found out afterwards that there were several times my wife lied about how she felt in...

I'm not sure how this compares with your situation BB, but when my wife and I tried to allow for her bisexual exploration, we went into it with some fairly precise terms... We attempted the triad because a few reasons: she was attracted to women, I am not a woman, neither of us wanted a V, and I...

I'd said that to my own wife a long while back, but as Mag said, yeah that's lesbian sex, mate. :) Always good to know you gave the go-ahead though. Still, right now I think it's safe to saw that Honey and Alice are very much in the NRE stage of their relationship, and perhaps Alice hasn't (and...

As a husband to a bisexual woman, who tried poly to allow her exploration, I'd like to also advise that you maintain the best communication with T that you can, too. Jealousy happens at some level for pretty much everyone, and as someone who fell into NRE extremely hard, sometimes that can get...

I just read through that bit about entanglement. That's definitely something I overlooked before attempting my own poly relationship. A lot of that is great relationship advice even if you're staying monogamous. :D But yeah, the idea of you feeling some need to put a bunch of effort into Dude's...

In my wife and I's poly attempt, secrecy was an important thing. We live in a very conservative area, and my wife had a lot of the typical concerns/fears that come from branching out into something new. If you have a lot of those kinds of concerns, and Lady's reasonable and respectful, Dude...

On-Topic: Despite being quite sexually open when I'm emotionally intimate with a partner, I sit right at three. My first young love in high school, one pretty disastrous bit in college, and then my wife a year or two after. Off-Topic: My wife is more than happy with one orgasm... I like to try...

As a fan of words, I love this topic. NRE culminating in CRE, and some time after transitioning into ERI is a nice way to split up the before-and-after into a more gradual thing. :) A couple of levels denoting growth, and then the change from "energy" to "intimacy" is a great signifier.

It's been a few months over a year since I've been on these forums... One of the last things I said in an update was: My wife and I are still struggling to repair the damage done. I've met up with our ex (U) only once since, with permission, to discuss and apologize for what I felt I'd done to...

I just wanted to update those of you who helped talk me through the situations I was facing. The conversation leading up to our friend and I ceasing communication again were... unpleasant, painful. Unlike our original break-up, there was no, "Yeah, this is for the best." Rather, there was a lot...

Yeah I know you weren't. Difficult truths usually feel that way though. Regardless of how things pan out, the conversations here really are soothing to come back to. Just a few years ago, I never would've thought a forum like this would made me feel comfortable lol.

This all gave me a lot to think about, and yeah, the temptation or urge to take it harshly is there. I gave it a little while to fully process... In short, entwined feelings are a known struggle of mine. I have accomplished setting aside needed me time through the week after recognizing it, and...