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Yes. As silly as it may sound, I do get upset that she doesn't make the first move. I like to be chased. I am attracted to aggressiveness. I love that shit. I don't just mean aggressive sexually, although that's good-- just be aggressive with me, mainly through conversation. If you can engage my...

While one can appreciate others putting their wants and needs second, at some point, when you start to feel you're at the bottom of the totem pole, it's no one else's fault but your own if you choose not to express it. I've expressed many times to know your wants and needs. and I guess it's my...

I am very accustomed to being in a relationship with a man. However, this isn't my first time in a relationship with woman. I think I look for some of those same "manly" qualities in our GF now. I realized that thinking that isn't really getting me what I want, yet I haven't figured out how to...

Polytriad, I agree that I have waited for her to make time. But that is in the realm of trying to figure out how well she listens to things I want, and her success with making that happen. I still feel that I should be able to mention something, and have hope that all I have to do is mention it...

Fidelia, you are correct. She and I do need to open our lines of communication. Someone does have to make the first move. I have tried several times to do as you have suggested. We realized, not too long ago, that one of us would have to make that move and step up to the plate. I have done...

I will admit that I am not very vocal with her about my feelings, mainly because I am scared. I am scared to overly express how I feel and it not be returned. This is not new, though. I have continuously struggled with my husband and our gf's feelings for each other. He has been very out loud...

Thanks, Jodi! I agree that this should make our marriage stronger. And the stronger our marriage is, then our relationship with our GF will be only that much better. But I feel so confused about the way I'm supposed to feel. I feel like I should be ashamed to be married.

Have you talked to B about what D has said?

Thanks TruckerPete! I feel a little better after our postings. I hope others post as well. I'm open to what anyone has to say, good or bad.

I think treating her as an equal will come naturally and it's not something that should be forced. Yes, I do expect that to happen, but everyone expects it now, and it's frustrating me. They are both aware that I am okay with equal treatment, but I am not there yet. To be honest, I don't even...

I think fair and equal are very important. That has not been brought up to me before. I think it is unfair that I be expected to treat both our GF and my husband as equals, when that is not the case. I do, however, agree that treating someone fairly when you cannot do equally should be totally...

I am new to this forum, however, my husband is an active participant and I have read several posts. I need help in understanding how poly works when you start as a couple who is married, then add a gf? This is something that only I seem to have trouble with. My husband feels that we should all...