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More reflections... So yeah, this is kinda turning into bloggy #2 for me, I can admit it that it's happened. I read all these posts out loud to my boyfriend the other day and he was really touched. It helped us a lot. It also helped me to reflect in a more positive light on some of our...

Of course you have needs too, that's only normal. Incidentally, the feeling of not having your needs met or being able to properly progress in the relationship is one reason why many people don't like vees in practice (sometimes they work when al people are ready; sometimes they don't, and...

I agree with the others. You're going to be okay. You can open your conversation with "I'm scared and nervous." It sounds to me like you may have a bit of classic anxiety going on that has nothing to do with polyamory. It sounds like you're "horribilizing" everything, making a picture in your...

why the rush? Ok, first off, my thoughts are kinda like "Why ruin a good thing by going too fast?" You guys all love each other and are serious about having a triad based on equality, I get that. Obviously, with rings and a new vehicle, this is following a somewhat "family" dynamic, and...

hi Hi and welcome! You might try searching "quads" as well. It seems to me like some couples on here have managed to build a non-hierarchical model with other couples and become a quad. I personally believe it is possible, and want that for my life as well. I suspect that it could take...

wow This sounds amazing, seriously! Do you have any advice for people trying to create loving, equal relationships between couples? How did you move beyond the time when you were all still getting to know each other and still had insecurities about who loves who more, etc? And how are your...

Hey ya'al.. I wrote a thread that is currently in the "poly relationship corner" I'd like to move it to life blogs since it's getting pretty bloggy. How do I do that? Thanks!!!:D:D

Best of luck, MT!

in the confessional spirit... :confused: One thing that keeps coming up for me is how to deal with the fact that my partner and I really made some bad decisions in all of this. When I met him, he was married, and we made so many of the typical NRE mistakes it's almost laughable, except of...

How are things going?

thanks I agree, this is very brave and very valuable because I certainly can say I've made my mistakes too. It would be easier to say I've been a poly goddess and never made a mistake in my life but I simply haven't. I've made stupid mistakes as well, and they have been hurtful for all...

hey ya'al Thanks for reading and sorry about the double post. I dont know how to make a relieved face so I guess I'll just tell the story... I've checked in with a womens safety organisation and I feel much better after talking a lot and discussing my situation. I feel much better now and I...

Hey y'all, First a warning-- if you've been through an abusive relationship before, this may contain triggers. Please take care of yourself and don't read it if you're liable to PTSD or overwhelmingly strong emotions. I know I'll be OK. :) So I've written a lot about the bad deterioration of...

Oh man... :( I'm so so so very unhappy and scared right now. I've actually started to be afraid for my safety from R.

OH my gosh, this ginger bread person is amazing. Thank you all for such insightful answers!!!!

I was just curious how people feel about this. Do you feel like being polyamorous is a sexual IDENTITY for you? Do you feel like, beyond being a lifestyle choice that you want, that polyamory is in fact, something you deeply NEED to feel spiritually, emotionally, and sexually fulfilled? For...

Don't worry :) Okay, first, as a bisexual, can I say I get it? I respect other people saying this is NRE, but actually, I think something deeper is going on and I get it. What I'm hearing is that confusing dichotomy which is bisexuality. You love him, but you don't feel sexually for him. How...

For what it's worth... Hi MT, You asked to hear from poly/mono partners who ended up getting a divorce. I am the girlfriend of a man who got a divorce. We were in a MFF triad, me, his wife, and him for a while, until it fell apart. Hindsight is 20/20, so here is my two cents (keeping in mind 2...

similar sitch Hey I'm actually in a similar situation myself. It's interesting because I tend to focus on bringing out the emotional and sensitive side of my boyfriend because I really value that and I enjoy bonding with him over that. His girlfriend brings out the super...

Wow, am I the only one out here who is kinda weirded out by the fact that your bf is completely unwilling to slow down a bit and talk things over a bit more with you? I don't know, I can appreciate the need for things to go a bit slower. Emphasising communication, encouraging feelings of...