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Look, long distance sucks. An eroding of your desire in an LDR is common, poly or no poly. Is there an end in sight for this LDR? Do you have a plan to move to the same city and get married in the near future, or is this marriage plan a sort of vague eventual hope?

This is a very sweet thread. It looks like your wife is afraid that you're hurtin' for it. But if you say you're not, you're not! Hear that, Mrs. OhSnap? You can stop throwing twats at him now. He doesn't seem to be interested. Also, Mrs. OhSnap, I'm very sorry that you've had to deal with...

If this becomes a long-term thing, you might grow out of DADT. You might want a bit more information and the security of knowing more about what she's doing. But for now, when you've just been on one date, this is casual. I'm not sure if it's important that you meet whole scores of other people...

Oh, and I forgot to point out that the choice is even harder for males! For the man answering this survey, he must endlessly love all of his partners to count as a spiritually-minded partner. Endlessly. If he has ever fallen out of love, for instance, he is obviously not spiritual in this...

If it was, I think I could happily answer that question. But, as a female, I have two options: I can say that I "believe in boundless love" (whatever that means). I can't answer that I do, because what the hell is boundless love, and why would I "believe" in it? Or I can say that I am...

Break up with S. He's an unattractive mess. Tell him that you wish him very well, but that he doesn't seem to be in a place in his life right now where he can handle the kind of relationship you have, and that you'd like to end it. Don't tell him you're pregnant. He can find out with everyone...

No, it is because your "categories" are stupid.

If you don't want the friend, you don't want the friend. There's really nothing more that can be said. It sounds like you do want to reconnect with your wife, and that she's feeling like she isn't able to do that right now, or is afraid you'll want more than she can give. Maybe the two of you...

I'm at 33 weeks, but I hear ya on the morning sickness! For most women, it does get better. It did for me. I hope it happens for you, too! Hang in there.

Yay! Congrats on the baby! I'm pregnant too! Babies everywhere! I have nothing else useful to add. Good luck with your situation. It sounds like the two of you are trying to be understanding of one another.

WHAT?!? Naturebug, that's REALLY REALLY bad and serious emotional abuse. Are you telling me that there is a woman in the house gaslighting the 7-year-old and that's the woman your boyfriend wants to keep around because he is currently using her for free childcare? It just keeps getting worse...

Break up with this guy. I think the women he's with appear to be "crazy" and "no good for him," but the one thing they all have in common is him. I'm beginning to suspect that it's really Jay who is crazy and no good. I mean, really. He's been involved with Bea for a substantial period of time...

Okay, but give this all a couple of days before you assume DOOM. So far, it seems to have gone like this: 1) She told you she loved some guy, you had your freakout time and told her to "do what she wanted" but that if she did, she'd be totally ruining your marriage. Freakout #1. 2) You talked...

LOL The idea that a poly person has to hold one or the other of those opinions (and not neither, or both) is utterly ridiculous. I know at least one thing that isn't scientific: this poll.

Wow, Jay has loads of women around him, and all of them "be crazy," except for you. Hmm... that sounds suspicious. How do you know that you won't be just another one of his "crazy" girls that he needs to kick out of his bed when the new girl comes along?

Blech.

This poll is very silly. Whether someone is science-positive or not has nothing to do with how much sex they want to have, for example, or whether they fall in love easily or not.

I wasn't suggesting you don't see your kids. I was just saying you don't have to "take the fall" if your marriage fails to prevent them from "thinking ill" of their mother, as you said. But hopefully it won't come to that! I hope you and your wife can work it out.

Okay, calm down for a minute and stop being melodramatic. Nobody has to take "the fall" for a marriage ending. Sometimes things just don't work out, and it's very sad and very stressful but it doesn't mean either of you are bad people or that someone has to be the "bad guy" for the kids. But...

Hi Dubious-- You're going to be fine! The first thing is that you should let go of any resentment you have towards your wife. When you're having regular casual sex with someone as she was, feelings develop, and for awhile, they're "acceptable" feelings, like friendship and affection, and at...