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Also, I've just read your other introduction thread. (Why post two?) What kind of relationship are you looking to have with this other woman? Is it just a sex partner you're looking for, or more of a poly relationship setup? You mention that you are only looking for single women who aren't...

Hey... congrats on the baby! I'm also pregnant... due in December!

I know, but one always takes one's hobbies way too seriously.

Congrats on the boner!

D/s is essentially a game, right? People do it for funsies. Those that do it just in the bedroom are casual about their gaming, and those that "lifestyle" it are more hardcore gamers. :) That's how I think about it. Not something I'm personally into, but I can see the appeal.

Lol! I love Dr. Cox.

Good call on the career coach. Hating your job causes shitloads of strain, and that could be more the problem than you even imagine. Also, it seems like things aren't quite clicking in the bedroom for you guys, lately. I have a concrete piece of advice. I am pregnant and somewhere in the second...

I think people are overthinking this. She's not having sex with you when you visit her; she does have sex with the guy when he visits. That's just hurtful, period. You're not crazy. There IS something going on. a) Maybe she's lost interest in you and it's time to break up. b) Maybe she's lost...

It's a lovely dream, and I encourage you to work towards it. I just want to make sure you've gotten a reality check, though. Most people's dreams include finding one person and settling down with them and having a happy life together. I still, however, have friends who are single and who...

Dude. Not all men cheat. I'm sorry you've been cheated on in the past, but it appears that you only date assholes. If you actually want to have a monogamous relationship, you can ask for monogamy and expect to get it from many men. I had a monogamous marriage for 8 years before we opened it up...

The US should worry about covering every child's health care costs before they worry about sending them packages of baby clothes.

That's pretty weird.

I do want to point out to you that there's no need to go through with this if you're both feeling uncomfortable. Maybe you just don't really want to have sex with this other guy that much? I'm not trying to tell you how you feel, but I'm just throwing the idea out there so you can think about...

Oh. Well, that is quite a different matter. Are you saying that your partner is seeing someone who's in a mono relationship?

When you discuss boundaries with your partner, there's some give and take. A "rule" that keeps getting broken can be looked at two ways. From one perspective, it was inconsiderate of your partner to break the rule you agreed on. From another perspective, if the rule is so impossible to follow...

Really? I was going to say the opposite. You have two hot people who you like, calling you and telling you you're hot and they like you. So... enjoy! You could also fly/drive over there a couple times a year, or whatever frequency is feasible, and go have some more threesomes. And then just...

No probs, Baron. That's so interesting. You've said so many things there. In one way, it shows a lot of disappointment, like you feel cheated of the relationship this "should" have been. That is obviously where a lot of your bitterness is coming from, and it's probably important to acknowledge...

I'm really glad he cleared this misconception up for you. It's statements like these that make us think that you don't quite understand how poly is supposed to work. "Handling the lifestyle" is all about openness and discussion, not secrecy, and it looks like you know this now.

I have to say, as a person in an open relationship, you probably don't want to do the DADT thing, especially long distance (I've also been in a long-distance relationship, but not an open one). You spend your time wondering what he's doing, what other girls he's seeing, how he feels about them...

Agreed! I only heard of the term a week ago or so on this very board, and it was from a woman who was insisting that her husband wasn't allowed to watch porn because she didn't feel any compersion from it. WTF?! So... okay, the concept has a time and a place, people. Now that the term has been...