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Sometimes dreams are just dreams... they're just your mind's random musings. I wouldn't read too much into it.

Everyone's telling Carma to call Barbie and tell her the truth. The only problem is: if Barbie hears it from Carma, she won't believe any of it. Would you believe the polyamorous rantings from your boyfriend's "crazy" wife? Unfortunately, Barbie is going to have to hear it from Sundance.

I know, right? Non-poly people often do not understand this aspect of dating around. It's HARD, and often an open, communicative marriage is safe and easy to retreat into. You don't sound like you have a problem, really. Enjoy your wonderful marriage, and good luck with the other partners...

Also, it's not just you being dishonest here, unless I read it wrong. You said that so it doesn't look like he's actually told you about said new toy, right? I agree with previous posters. DTMFA. The relationship doesn't seem to be working, and it doesn't seem like either of you are motivated...

Wait, so you guys are both dating the same girl, but keeping it from each other? And the girl hasn't said anything for odd reasons of her own? This is... a bit different from the situation you describe at the beginning of this thread, Tinyblu. Also, if this is true, this girl isn't a "new toy"...

I think you should bring it up. It might help to remember that this is a common problem people have in long-distance relationships, whether they're poly or not! I was in a long-distance relationship with my now-husband for a few years, and it was pretty brutal, and he didn't call me frequently...

Thinking of you, Carma, and hoping talks are going okay with your husband.

All women don't feel one way or the other! Your mileage may vary, depending on which woman in particular.

TrueRiver, I'm pregnant right now and I have to say that I wouldn't consider veto-ing the father's parental rights, because I'm already exhausted and the baby hasn't even come yet! It's scary to think of doing this all on my own. I am going to need my husband's help, and a lot of other help. So...

Yeah, I think you got a wrong impression from this, OP. I don't see any posts saying that the Na's cultural norms are something you should strive for or want for yourself now. Obviously, it wouldn't work very well today because our society is set up differently than theirs. It just seemed like...

Annabel, the word "consensual" triggered me, too, but I didn't mention it. I feel like possibly the Cheesies have misused the term a bit. Usually, we reserve the term "non-consensual sex" for sexual assault. There are two people involved in non-consensual sex, and it involves a violation of...

Okay, well then, maybe I'll amend that to say that it could hardly be considered abnormal to have an orgasm more frequently than every two weeks.

Yeah, that can't be right. If your brain is only "normal" two weeks after an orgasm, nobody's brain would be normal, ever. Because who goes two weeks between orgasms? How do the scientists measure those levels? Skeptical.

The quote leaves out one important part of the equation... since the men are residing in their mother's houses along with their siblings, a man becomes the "father" to his sister's children, sharing in childcare and being a family. They are not cut off from the next generation. He still gets to...

Would we cheat, basically? I think probably most of us would say no, that's not in the plan. But you're right that sometimes, in life, a special person can come along and you do things for them you wouldn't otherwise consider. Is this a hypothetical question, or do you have a specific married...

I can answer this very directly, because it relates to my recent life experience. I have a husband and a thing going on the side with another man, Sven. My husband and I were trying to conceive when things got hot and heavy with Sven. I immediately started using birth control with both men for...

Cheesy Lady, you've brought up some interesting things that would be fun to talk about. The first idea is about where we place our sexual relationship with ourselves on the hierarchy. I want you to maybe stop thinking of porn/masturbation with porn as your husband's "secondary," or at least...

Yeah, on the other hand, it must be nice for her to have your visits and help, if only because being a new mom can be lonely and it is so nice to have a friend who's willing to stick around and hang out. Obviously, Sven isn't going to be as involved as you are, but that is not an expectation or...

Okay--had a long talk to Sven over g-chat yesterday... about Star Wars. We've had the argument before: he feels like being a Jedi is the perfect way to live, and I feel like Jedis unhealthily repress normal emotions (fear of loss leads to the dark side? really?). So we argued about that for...

I did read your link, and it is precisely because of the qualifiers you mention that we need to be careful not to draw global conclusions from these case studies. Porn "may" be causing problems for these men, but of course they are all from a sample group of men with ejaculatory problems...