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Pretty good summer :) I must say that the last few months have been really good on the relationship front. I had managed to get into a good time-splitting routine with both my guys and worked on improving communication with hubby about my needs. I stopped feeling as if I needed permission to...

Some very tough love in here, some really good advice. Will be thinking on this a while... Thanks to all who offered their thoughts.

Tension.

Wish I knew... No matter what I end up wanting for, I always feel selfish for wanting it. Like I'm somehow not deserving of it or should not be expecting it. I have a really difficult time articulating my needs and usually end up holding back until it blows up. :(

Feel like ranting a bit Even without meaning to, primaries are often controlling of the secondary's relationship. I have both a primary (husband) and a boyfriend. My bf has two primaries of his own that he lives with (although he shares more of the romantic side of things with one of them). The...

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Sometimes, I just fucking hate being a secondary :( The role doesn't suit me well.

You simply MUST make it to one of their shows some time. They're simply amazing live :)

On a bit of an Opeth kick after having seen them live with my boyfriend this past weekend...man what a great show that was :D

CWC, that was a really nice story. Thank you for posting it. :) Congratulations to the three of you!

Feeling tired, confused, questioning my ability to handle the stuff I have on my plate right now. I have this overwhelming urge to get away from everyone and everything... :confused:

No advice here either...just *hugs*. Wishing you better times ahead :)

Down in a hole.. I've been feeling depressed and overwhelmed for the last few weeks. Facing some health issues, waiting for surgery and worrying. Also dealing with a teenage daughter who herself is depressed and has major emotional issues, most of which she takes out on me. And feeling...

I envy you for feeling so clear about being poly, even if you're having some flurries of doubt now. I just kind of fell into being polyamorous and have since learned a lot about myself, but it wasn't second nature by any means. There are still days I struggle with sharing, jealousy and...

There are never any guarantees in relationships... But I must admit, the less grounded nature of my secondary relationship does sometimes cause me certain irrational insecurities. My primary relationship isn't perfect and has had ups and down over the years but there is a certain comfort in it...

Ahhh, I love me some heavy Devy on occasion.. Good things come from Canada :cool:

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Feeling worn out...must be that time of year. Lately, I'm just overwhelmed, tired, run down and feel in need of a week away by the ocean with an umbrella drink. Sadly, that isn't going to happen. I've been feeling as if I spoke up about all the thoughts that are swirling in my mind lately...

Too much too fast is a sure recipe for hurt feelings and much disaster. I'm glad your hubby wants to have an honest talk with her about giving you some space and time, that's a positive. As for him staying overnight, remember: breathe... If you find yourself not ready for that step right...