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Background: I'm a woman married to a bisexual guy (Rafe), with two kids. I have a (secondary) boyfriend (Liam) who has two other full-time mates (MF) and two kids. I'm also new to polyamory. My dilemma: I am struggling with my feelings in the secondary relationship with Liam. Somehow, this...

Yay for retail therapy? lol;)

Bummed out Feeling really grumpy today. Seems being a secondary is harder than I realized. Struggling to get any kind of alone time or privacy with b/f lately...and being the only who seems to be bothered by that...Plus when trying to speak up, being told that it's "the way it is when you're...

Jealousy sucks. Just when I thought I was getting a handle on it, some new situation triggers it. My boyfriend has two full-time mates with whom I get along wonderfully. However, he's currently on a little road trip with his male partner and they're planning on being physical with an online...

I've wondered that myself! My secondary relationship started almost a year ago, turning into full blown love about 7 months ago. We both have other partners and children we live with. Sometimes I wish for more, but like you, can't see it happening and it's frustrating... Though it's definitely...

I wholeheartedly agree with that. No one gets it just right from the start. We've been open with my bf all-and-all for almost a year and we're STILL working stuff out. It's my first time with poly too, and it's quite a learning curve. Don't be discouraged, Cranberry, not everyone is as...

Indeed, lol Thank you. We're working on it. :)

I'm sorry, but I agree with Magdlyn. You deserve better. Speak up!

Sagency: Beautifully said. It IS nice to take a break from all that stuff from time to time. I'm learning slowly how to find peace of mind and heart. Today is a very good day in that respect :)

I've read over most of the thread from the start, thought I admit to skipping over an occasional entry. I think I understand your frustration, MT. I do find my husband moves at a much slower pace when it comes to adjusting to poly life than I do. I can imagine how hard it is to be faced with...

In that perspective, the blog post thing makes sense. I'm just not sure I've got much to put into one...my life is pretty boring in a daily sense, lol.

Justlost: Sorry you're feeling so much pain. Communication is always a good thing, no matter what kind of relationship one is in and I'm trying to teach my husband to say what's on his mind in a way that's constructive, not hurtful. He tends to bottle things up and act out for a few...

And Periwinkle...I call myself secondary because both b/f and I have mates and families and he and I do not live together. I'm not intent on forcing anything, just going along with the feelings...

Hi TruckerPete :) Hubby and I have known each other 5 years, married for a little over 2 years. I started having "fun" with the boyfriend (who is my hubby's male fwb) almost a year ago. About 6 months into it we realized we fell in love along the way. It's been a year full of growth...

If by bloggy you mean it's a bit too long, I apologize, I was trying to explain how I was feeling lately and asking for feedback. If you meant that I'm not asking a specific enough question, I thought I was. My intent was not to blog (or I'd go back to LJ). I was just wondering if the way...

I was reading some online articles and blogs on polyamory as I try to adjust and make my way through. Some of them included some pros/cons lists and the like. Now most of those were of a rather obvious nature but I had a bit of an epiphany when I read this one: "Under Cons: More processing...

It's funny, but at my house, it's the male (my husband) who has more insecurity issues with being polyamorous. I don't think the majority of people, male or female, are wired to be monogamous. There's far too much cheating going on for that. Truly monogamous folk do exist, but imho, they're not...

Hi Tricksterfox, Nice to see another Canuck here, where from? I'm in Ontario.:)

So very true. Being 'bi' doesn't mean you want men and women equally all the time. And it isn't a fad either, it's a fact. Most people aren't 100% anything and preferences can change over time. I for one have been 'straight' all my life, but now, in my late thirties, I have been having fun...

Mya: You're definitely not alone. My relationship of 5 years does not feel as urgent and full of passion and 'gaze into your soul' moments as the 6 month old relationship does. That new partner and I have quite some sparks going on...lol Now I've worried about that a bit, only to be reminded...