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LOL! I wish! The thing is, if he actually did end it, Nora would never forgive me for ruining it. :mad:

I had a long talk with Nora yesterday. I told her I'm at my wits end, my breaking point; that since this started, I've felt like she's leading a separate life and only involving me in the bad parts; that I need her to include me more on everything. I feel like it's my last, best hope to throw...

My partner opened up her Poly desires about 6 weeks ago. While I have no good advice, as I too am having difficulty, just wanted to say *hugs*.

Well, after another craptastic day, she got laid last night, and even had the class to come home with hickies. Gonna be awhile before I touch anyone besides myself. Majorly pissed.

We almost had a good night. We went to see KISS with a group of my friends, my best friend and her hubby. They know about Nora, and she wasn't comfortable. We wandered off and held each other like we used to. Awesomeness. Then the inevitable. We were stuck in the lot trying to get out. She...

@trucker - just for clarity, I'm female, married to female, who now has boyfriend. The subconscious bitch slap sounds about right. It also feels kind of a pride thing, a "Why the hell do I wanna go there if he just did?" even though I REALLY REALLY want to.

Crap. Interesting. That may be it. But if it were some passive-aggressive thing, why do I want to so bad/so often? Cripes, this is so darn confusing.

Great points. I'm still hashing it out. As for fluid bonded, they aren't sure about the first time. But she swears (at my insistence) that they use condoms. I like Nick well enough. He is an old friend, and we get along as well as could be expected. As for me, Nora's my first female...

Thank you all for your thoughtful and thought-provoking responses. While I do bitch here about all the wrongs, I'm still only happy when I'm in her arms. I'm trying to distance myself on the cheating thing. For example, I didn't go out Tuesday when I knew Nick and Maya were there, but I did...

Question regarding sex I'm just trying to figure out my boundaries. I'm new to exploring if I, as a mono (for now) can make it work with my sort-of poly wife. I've reached a stumbling block. I'm incredibly attracted to Nora, and more so since she began sleeping with Nick, for whatever reason...

I don't know if it was moving into the spare room, or just enough time passing, or I've just gotten my ass beat so bad, but I'm getting numb to the pain. I totally get the frustration about the cheating, and I certainly do not consider it acceptable to pin it on poly. I don't believe that's...

Welcome to my convoluted world. Now Nora is thinking she doesn't want me with Nick. She is leaning towards she's poly, but if I wanna go get a quickie, that that would be cheating, as I don't see myself as poly. But she's still considering it, and I'm fine with giving her time to think. I...

I don't know if it's the love confession, or the absolute hysterical comedy of all involved, but I do feel much better today. We had some solid communication yesterday. I really don't know if it shut my heart down more, or opened it up. Tonight I'm going to join Nora, Nick, Maya and some other...

I agree! There's a great humor to it. So, basically, Nick and I have both said if she wants a threesome, it will be us three. But that's not enough for her. There's quite a comedy in this tragedy. She feels uncertain now, after asking me repeatedly for a threesome between us, because she's not...

I think I goofed by creating a new thread, mods should/could we merge? I don't know why, but Nora's confession gave me some clarity. I don't know if it means I care more, or I'm just growing colder, or...? I am certainly spending way too much time in my head. Yesterday I lost control. She...

Wow. Does it matter if it's love or lust? Nora just told me she's in love with Nick, and he with her. They declared their love on Sunday. I don't know how to feel or react. It would be so much easier if the three of us could ever spend any darn time together and hash this out. I don't even...

Not barky at all. I always appreciate the input. Tonight Nora and I are going to the fair together, phone-free. Hopefully that will help. Tomorrow is a concert with all the usual suspects. When Nora told me she was going out with Nick after the concert, I got a bit cranky. The thought of...

Great in theory. Sucks in practice. Last night, Nora went to a concert with Nick and Maya and some other peeps. I passed and stayed home fixing up my new accommodations. Nora came home, talked for a few, went to bed. Later, she crawled into my bed and held me, we talked again a bit, and she...

Thank you all, as always. I'm trying to take some of your advice. I told Nora today that I'm moving into the spare room until I can get a better handle on things. I hope some day we can make it work, but between really thinking about Nick's marriage/cheating status, my mom, and some issues...

Gosh, this is all so hard. Nora and I went to a benefit last night with Nick and Maya. Then we went out afterwards, and it just made things harder. I really think Maya is a great person. We talked a lot last night, and it's pretty clear she's only in the marriage for the kids. Meanwhile, the...