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First I want to say that I'm only on here occasionally. I was an active lurker when my triad formed 5 years ago, but these days I only visit occasionally. That must be how I missed this thread to start with! My FFM triad is ~5 years old. I will refer to my husband (married legally) as K and...

I'm not sure how old your children are, I think that would make a difference. I've been in a triad for 5 years now and we currently have 3 children. When we got together with my partner, my husband and I already had a 2 year old. She doesn't really remember a time before my partner was a part...

Our triad is going on 5 years and we rarely even discuss things like division of time anymore. We are such an integrated unit that it doesn't seem any different than when I was married to just 1 person. We recently had 2 babies! My partner and I gave birth 6 days apart after years of trying...

I just saw this article in the news about a triad who had two children together http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2987106/Polyamorous-man-s-two-wives-birth-30-days-one-three-insist-couldn-t-happier.html In my opinion its a bit sensationalist and sadly heteronormative (they aren't his...

There is a lot to unpack here. First, do you all live together now? If so, then you will all be deeply invested in raising the child. If you and your wife never wanted kids then you should consider this first before making any decisions. Does your girlfriend want outside partners? Maybe she...

I can't say my husband and I were ever 'looking for that perfect woman.' We both essentially fell in love with one of our friends, and she fell in love with each of us. We had no notion of polyamory, so unicorn hunting wasn't something we ever did. In fact, we never did any swinging or anything...

We have threesome sex all the time this way. We've only had a yeast problem one time. It seemed that one of us would get over it and then the other one would get it and so on. It went on for over a month. How we solved it was to have all three of us (my husband included) take the yeast...

Having a kid is scary! Well, its really the leap into the unknown that is terrifying, but that goes for anyone having a kid for the first time. We would really like to have more children, but both my gf and I have fertility issues. At this point my gf is doing fertility treatment with a...

This thread makes me so happy! I am in a triad and we just celebrated our 3rd anniversary. My husband and I have been married for 13 years, and we have 1 child. We were all friends for about a year before anything (thank you Absinthe!) happened. Once we got together, it just felt very...

I don't know that we ever sat down and formally talked out being poly-fi. I see many people discuss the importance of triads allowing for partners outside of the relationship, but that was never something that came up. None of us is interested in anyone else. We are busy, we are focused on our...

In my experience, it is unrealistic to expect you can live separately while co-parenting. Newborns require an incredible amount of time and energy. If you intend to nurse it won't be easy to leave the baby with a different person for a number of months. Is there some benefit to putting this...

My mistake, I missed where you were deemed the only person allowed to post in this thread.

I'm not sure why a threesome seems 'back to front'? If the point is to develop a triad from the beginning, then a threesome makes sense to me. It gives you the opportunity to see if you all work together. It allows for full discussion of any issues afterwards. If something happens where one...

I think you are looking at this from just your own perspective. In my opinion people have many different reactions to threesome sex. To assume that swingers are somehow clueless and walking into a 'feelings' trap is ridiculous. They are grown up adults, and will have to navigate new territory...

Threesome sex first is a big jump for some people. That said, if you start out with the idea that you might just have a threesome with a person and then a relationship forms after that, then threesomes first can be just fine. As for the idea that 'a man only has one penis', well this entirely...

I guess I have a hard time understanding how you didn't want to discuss having a child with your girlfriend? I mean, you'd been with her for 8 years, which is a really long time. She must've been a big presence in each others lives, so you would've realized how much she would be impacted by...

Haha! Even after nearly 3 years in a triad with my husband and gf I feel the same way! I don't 'feel' polyamorous. I can't see myself loving anyone else besides who I love right now. The circumstances of that relationship coming together would have be so 'perfect' that it's incredibly...

It makes sense to have reservations about it. She can't actually believe that you will be satisfied with her response of ' you have nothing to worry about'. People need to plan things in life, she can't expect you to just follow her without any resolution to these issues. Also, you SHOULD be...

I'm concerned that you shouldn't brush it all off to hormones. It doesn't appear to me that she sees you as a full partner. I've both had a child and supported my gf through a pregnancy (and subsequent miscarriage) and I have to say, she always made me feel needed. Besides, all this started...

Yes, I think you have it right. I would just ask them. Take your time. Go out with them. It's not about just fucking them. From the way you describe them, I don't think they would be interested in just one of them dating you, either. Just approach them in an honest way. They've probably...