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    Communication Workshop

    So we tried for our second communication meeting yesterday! EGAD!! It went something like this: C: When you (meaning me) are happy, then everyone is happy. It is simple. I don't have any issues. Hubby: Yeah, it has been going well lately. I am cool. Me: Well, I am good too. We had talked about...
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    The Polly Roller Coaster

    I hear ya TL. So sorry it isn't working out today. Maybe, just maybe, the blended mix needs to age a bit; you know, just sit there and wait a bit. Today was a weird day for us too. I was strong mentally, which is always a good thing, but C was 'off' and quiet and so hard to figure out. She had...
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    Creating the relationship you want

    Yes! I agree!! Words to live by! :D
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    The Polly Roller Coaster

    It is such an interesting thought, that there are so MANY types of Love,yet only one word to capture them all!! I have been doing so much reflection lately on this word, and this feeling and have come to understand the "NRE" as a more complete word. My dog, the LUST, the WANT, the DESIRE, the...
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    On again---off again---on again???

    Fabulous TL...ENJOY ALL THE RIDES!! :)
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    The Polly Roller Coaster

    Wow...love both of your replies, anotherbo and ak. Thank you!! :) I guess part of this whole thing is learning to accept yourself as you are. I find myself chanting to myself - in between my my newfound breathing techniques ;) - "I am okay", "in fact, I am pretty damn good". ;) Part of the...
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    Communication Workshop

    Better communication via therapy sessions Is this how it is suppose to work? Hehe I thought I would share some of my session notes from yesterday. It's sort of cool that I live in a pretty diverse city with so many great resources at my fingertips. I am using them all now! I told the...
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    Creating the relationship you want

    Are you kidding me??? Easy!! I have lost 10 pounds (9% of body weight!!), had a pounding chest, nausea and swirling tornadoes of emotion for over a month now - obviously, off and on! I truly am not sure why I am still hanging on for dear life....but maybe just maybe I am actually learning...
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    Not sure if this is polyamory or just voyeurism

    I was probably in a similar spot to your wife, very unsure, if not against the whole concept. However, my hubby kept listening to podcasts and gaining new info. Sometimes on road trips we listened to them together. He never pushed... just, um, quietly talked. Apparently I listened. When a friend...
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    The Polly Roller Coaster

    Thanks Sage, you seem really good with this stuff! Lots of practice?? ;) What I want is to relax. I know - logically - that we are ALL good with each other, but it seems that logic has little room at times! Which is odd, since I am very logic based (programmer). I bought 100 bucks worth of...
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    The Polly Roller Coaster

    Well, since this is the 'Roller Coaster' thread....here comes the down......CRASH! As mentioned, Friday was outstanding, and Saturday day was great. C and hubby hung out a bit and had a nice time! I arrived home with dinner, and unbenounced to me, C left to get home herself, and told me that...
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    Religious survey

    Devout Atheist. :)
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    Walking a new path...

    Not 'quite' the same scenario for us, but soooo similar! I am trying to NOT focus or 'care,' or maybe 'observe' with an open mind 'their' conversations and intimacy, but to NOT freak out! It was pointed out to me today that part of this issue most likely stems from my need to 'direct' or...
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    Definition Help - Triad versus V

    Thanks Sage! It is so strange for someone other than my hubby to see my raw self...a self that I am not too proud of at times! Actually, embarassed of, as I fight to maintain control. If anyone HAS any tips on LETTING go of the tight grip, please help. I know that I need to let go but it is...
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    Helen Fisher-anthropologist.

    Thanks for the post RP. Very good listen. I also liked the part of the Orgasmic release of a NATURAL high, making you feel like you are in love! I think that this has been one of the things within our Triad that has been confusing....when everyone orgasms, all is right with the world and we...
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    Definition Help - Triad versus V

    Hi there, So our story is one where we met a friend of a friend at the pub, back in March. My hubby, me (the wife) and her, all hit it off famously. She and I ended up hanging out together A LOT. One night at a dinner party, we were the last to leave and she came up to both of us, turned to me...
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    Communication Workshop

    Thanks, Ari. Maybe that is the confusing part. It started with me and my close girlfriend, and of course Hubby jumped in when offered. Little did I know that my NRE/lust for C would far be surpassed by that of C and the hubby, leaving me with a nice healthy dose of rejection. Yeah, I am working...
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    Communication Workshop

    Well, I am not very good on the lingo yet. I am the wife in the wife, husband, girlfriend scenario. So I think that I am the hinge, and she is the leg, right? Or is the husband the hinge cuz he is attached to both? So confusing. I am 'attached' to both strongly, but the girlfriend is 'in love'...
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    Communication Workshop

    Thanks for the words of encouragement everyone! Very nice and waaaay better than talking to the other two about it right now! I am exhausted with the round about talk! Egad. I just want to take a pulse check with you all. Friday night was fabulous. I 'let' the two of them 'date,' so to speak...
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    New & Unsure

    OMG, Spirit, words to live by!! Thank you...I will recite often!
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