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I'm technically not qualified to give you advice, because I'm a woman. But I'm married to a man who is 56 and has a very successful polyamorous dating life. So here goes: My husband meets women IRL and online. Have you tried OKCupid? He meets them through shared interests, shared life...

I'm happy to read your updates without having to see that gloomy word 'postmortem' every time :) Things sound great! Enjoy every minute of it!

And in a way, that is what it is, and that is what is so painful. I was / am in Davis' position. My bf C., to me, doesn't seem to acknowledge that it IS a big deal, and very hurtful, to realize that he chooses to have this intimacy with his new gf and not with me, his partner of 18 months. (it...

C wrote me a message telling me Molly does not want to meet me. I then wrote him an email telling him that I'm sorry about that, but that it's her decision, and that the real issue is between me and him. That I feel unseen and neglected. That I was hoping for his relationship to develop, to...

just sent him a message and asked for her email adress. any info that comes out of this will be useful... if he doesn't want to give it, if she does not want to give it, and if i do get it, how she will respond to my contacting her - and how he will react. just had to do something!

Thanks Anne. I'm really torn about this. I want to take things into my own hands, because that's what I do. But - if I reach out to her, I'm sort of taking the problem away from where it really resides - which is in HIS attitude. He has told me she does not want to meet me. I don't think he...

Things are not so great. The family situation with the sickness of my dad is very tense and causing me a lot of stress. And while I thought that C and I were more on the same page, it no longer looks like that. The thing is: I want a complete relationship with him, where we are integrated in...

Ren's date went well, and he will probably see her again. We did have a minor issue this weekend. I guess we've become a bit smug about poly and dating... and we did not set a hard rule about getting in touch, when he would be home, etc. I thought we had, but it was too vague. So when I did not...

my life isn't perfect, but it wasn't perfect the 20 years I was mono, so... the past 4 years my life has become richer, sexier, more fun, more interesting, more complex (which I regard as a good thing), and more challenging (again, a good thing - to me). I'm never going back.

What has helped me in the past when dealing with feelings like this: First, examine yourself and your actions. If you and husband agreed on boundaries, do you keep them? Are you honest with him, with bf, with yourself? Without looking at how your husband feels, just looking at yourself, do you...

Hi KittenPuff, not all threads get replies, sometimes people who would be just the ones to have insight for you on a particular matter, are absent from the boards for a while. Keep posting and asking, I also don't think you over shared at all! as to your question: from my own personal...

Ren is on a date with a new person. I like everything he's told me about her, and I really hope it will be a good date. I'm home alone enjoying the peace and quiet and getting some work done on a new creative project. I had an interesting online 'session' with MrB last night. First he gave me...

I'm going to ask a possibly really stupid question here. Genital herpes.. what's the big deal? I understand it can be a big deal, and dangerous, if you are pregnant or want to get pregnant. But if you are not, and/or are a guy who's not with a woman trying to get pregnant.. what is herpes...

Background: my boyfriend C and I have been together vor 18 months. For almost all of that time he has been single (he was dating someone when we met, but she broke up with him after 1 month). We had a very intense relationship from the start, where we would see each other as often as the...

Well. Resolving the major anxieties around my relationship with C. happened only just in time. I received some bad and distressing news about a close family member today. Bad because the health situation of this person is not looking good at all, distressing because I have a conflicted...

As I rode the train to C.'s city, I felt myself getting calmer. It might have had something to do with my reading (I'd been reading Pema Chodron all morning, btw this is highly recommended for anyone who's ever dealt with obsessive thoughts). I arived early at the place we were meeting, a bar...

Having the Big Talk with C later today (I'm going to see him, fortunately, I hate talking on the phone). just writing down some stuff that really needs to be addressed.. I've been living a poly life for 4 years now. It's been wonderful, exhilarating, and hard. I've grown and learned and my...

I apologize for hijacking your blog FoL, but I just wanted to say, thank you Magdlyn. This just was a huge eye opener for me. For a long time I thought the knowledge of all involved, was the one thing that separated poly from cheating. My own recent issues stem exactly from the fact that...

Anne, I pm'd you about my hobby blog :) To lighten things up, let me add a fun poly tidbit. Ren was on a date with Lou a couple of days ago. They were at a restaurant, hadn't seen each other for a couple of weeks, and there were some very obvious PDA's (so he told me later). He texts me at...

thanks ladies for your input. It is much appreciated. well, truth be told, it is something I am suffering with in other aspects of my life, too. But it is also true that he triggers my anxieties way more than anyone or anything else in my life - so yeah that should tell me something. you...