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Yes, this. My time is valuable. I trust my instincts. I recently had a date just like what you describe nycindie. The waiter came over and asked me if i wanted another glass of wine. Now, I ALWAYS want another glass of wine :) so the fact that I said no really meant something to me. I went home...

I saw C today. For the first time since we broke up in July. It was beautiful and difficult. He gave me back the stuff that was still at his house. I gave him back his key. We sat outside and had coffee. He basically told me he wants me back. He thinks I rushed into breaking up - that I did not...

Hi IP, I feel the same way about this time of year. Just wanted to tell you how much I've appreciated and valued your contributions to these boards the past year. Wishing you a good evening with C and telly and knitting - sounds pretty good to me :) Hugs!

I used to feel this about my relationship with my bf C, that it 'wasn't going anywhere'. In retrospect, I think what I felt was that we were not on the same page even though we kept telling each other, that we were. Despite his frequent assertions that he was definitely poly, I think I always...

I live with my husband, so I see him every day, but because we are both so busy with work and friends and other partners, we have to schedule date nights.. There's usually one or two nights a week where we are both home but doing our own stuff, and one night a week that is really date night, we...

really lovely date/evening/night/morning with Brig. He asked me last night, if it bothered me that he was still listed as 'single' on OKC? And that he was thinking about changing that, that it did not feel quite right, to be listed as single. This kind of blew me away. We haven't talked much, if...

Please don't hide from A that you are seeing R as a friend. You think you are protecting her, but you are thinking for her. You've done nothing wrong. You have nothing to hide or be ashamed of. Tell the woman you love you had a friend over for pizza. Nothing more nothng less. If you want a...

Things with Brig are still good. Taking it slow. Not talking about what it all means, not talking about expectations, not talking about the future. Just going from date to date, enjoying each other, getting to know each other. Its new for me and sometimes nerve wrecking. There's so much less...

Hi Phy! I saw you had updated and thought gosh I hope she's pregnant :) and you are! congratulations. I hope you feel happy and healthy and that you and Lin and Sward and Baby will be one big happy poly family!

Thank you for sharing this.. It's something I've been thinking about SO much lately. Since I became more involved in the poly community in my country it is exactly that what I've been experiencing, and it feels so stifling and limiting. But I also understand that it makes people feel safe like...

Why not be sexual without PIV sex? so many other things you can do. I understand that the fact he lied about it is probably a major issue here, but... I always wonder why the PIV is so important to many people.. New bf and I have been seeing each other for months now and haven't had PIV sex...

Things are pretty good. I'm enjoying my relationships in all the forms and shapes they take. Things with Brig are lovely. It's a new thing for me, the relaxedness of it, the feeling of safety and security. We see each other about twice a week. Not a lot of emailing or texting which I like -...

Was thinking about you the other day, weird how that can happen with people you've only read about online, anyway, great to read this update!

I don't have kids, and if I did, I don't think I would be able to live the poly life I'm living now. That said - even now, with all my time besides working hours my own, I find scheduling a challenge. I always seem to be able to find the time to see lovers and new interests, it's old friends...

thanks Mya and MeeraReed! getting ready for my next date with Brig. Oh boy I like this guy. Butterflies. And I'm scared. Scared to make the same mistakes I made with C. Scared that Brig won't be able to do the poly thing. We've talked about it - but I don't want to talk about it too much. I...

IMO it's not really her issues that are the problem here. I think you should talk to him about not bringing the communication with his wife into your relationship. Why would he tell you this?

Thanks Ry! Well.. my date with MrBrown was pretty good. We talked about a lot of the issues that were present during the summer. I was afraid, before I went, that he would get under my skin again and I would feel the neediness and clingyness again that I SO not want with him anymore. But things...

Next time, make your 'proposal' in person and not via email. Makes it much easier to see each others reactions, and it's less stressful than trying to figure out what a written communication means.

Time to update :) C (ex bf) and I are no longer in touch. I briefly thought we maybe could be friends. But the email communication was awkward and full of misunderstandings. We had trouble picking a time to meet because we were both very busy. He said, 'well if it's going to take that long I...

I'm giddy :) going on third date (within one week) with New Guy tomorrow, and he's cute and funny and a little shy and playful and creative and smart and the way he smiles at me makes me weak in the knees... had a shitty summer and am enjoying every single second of this great feeling :)