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Quoting Marcus, from another thread Been thinking a lot about this lately and how it relates to family relationships. I'm having some issues with my parents lately. We've never been close, they've never supported me, we have no emotional connection, basically they've let me figure things out...

Glad it was useful! I've become a bit of a Pema addict :) Whenever I'm really anxious/jealous/needy/caught up I read her stuff. I know there are lots of Buddhist writers out there, but she seems one of the very few who talks about these things from the perspective of someone who has lived a...

so it says on my profile 'don't message me if you live too far away to make meeting in person easy'. I get a message from a guy who says he loves my profile (doesn't really say WHAT he loves about it though) and says [where he lives] is really not that far away! It's in another country and I...

I do have the best friends, I am so lucky. I was talking to a dear friend, who is mono, but very interested in me and my life. She also happens to be the person who cuts my hair :) I was talking about my break up with C, issues with MrBrown, and feeling down. She said: You need some fun! You...

I think you are over-thinking things, not just about the sex part, but about the whole relationship. It seems like you are approaching this as some sort of work project, with your support group, and even calling your sexual exploits with her 'work.' There are no set definitions, there are no...

Well, yes, me too. I look at it like this: I have learned so much, and have grown so much. And a lot of what I do and how I behave is dictated, guided by the 'new me' (which, I believe, is the me I was meant to be). But it only takes a slight trigger to throw me back into the old patterns. The...

I emailed MrBrown a couple of possible days for a date and he replied he doesn't want to schedule anything right now. It makes me anxious and sad, because this could mean I won't see him for a very long time - he doesn't want to plan in the next 2 weeks, then he's going away for 2 weeks, and...

I am sorry you are hurting. This is something I don't believe in. People who hurt you, don't respect you, don't see you as you are, don't accept your life and your choices-- they are not healthy or good for you, no matter if they are your family or not. I would even say that being hurt and not...

Another thing that I must be careful to not let spill over into other / new reationships, is the fact that I had a very close, 'domestic' relationship with C and I miss not having that. Well I have it with Ren of course but it was such a new adventure for me to share this with someone else as...

A question for you: If you don't feel that spending time apart takes anything away from the relationship, and if you are so very confident about the relationship, what is it exactly that makes you possesive of the time the 2 of you spend together? Just playing devils advocate here. Do you feel...

I would say, that hurt pride, and the fact that it hurts you that she kissed other guys sooner than she kissed you, ARE in fact signs of insecurity and fear - and not a different kind of jealousy, at all. If her 'playing the field' makes you jealous, it's up to you to decide if you want to...

Got a message that I don't really know how to respond to. We're a 95 % match, the profie is interesting and well written, the guy is openly poly, the message he sent me is funny, smart, indicates he's ready my profile, and has just the right tone. But... I look at his pictures and he is so...

I was feeling very disconnected from MrBrown for a couple of days. I realized that some of that comes from the fact that I am experiencing some sort of withdrawal from the C drama. Even though things weren't a lot of fun recently, we communicated so much, that with that connection gone, my life...

Yes, another one guilty of self sabotage here :) I recently broke up with my BF, and really could not believe myself that I had let things go so bad for months. But I'm slowly realizing that I DID get something out of that month long process, and I would not have learned so much, about myself...

This article by Pema Chodron has helped me a lot with my loneliness and neediness issues. Just quoting one paragraph here, but the whole article is well worth the read. I like her distinction between the 'hot' loneliness that needs a fix, and 'cool' loneliness that is actually a completely new...

Well I guess it had to come back and bite me. Maybe I was too optimistic last week. This week is definitely not off to a very good start. I had a date with BGuy last night, and while the talks were great and the sex was amazing, I still left feeling a little sad. I think because I realized that...

Experienced my first poly break up last weekend. Was expecting to be really hurt and to feel really sad. What I actually feel is a whole lot of relief mixed with a little melancholy sadness. Am also very happy to go away with Ren for the weekend. It's something we do so well together: travel...

Love your writing fuchka. I enjoyed your previous blog, and am now looking forward to the updates on this one!

Things are actually... good. I feel free. It's like I can breathe again. It's almost scary how little sadness there is. It makes me think I've let things go way way too far. I hope I will be more in tune with my feelings next time. And know when to leave a situation that isn't good for me...

YES!!! I love pubic hair on guys. I also started to have my own grow back a bit. Not to a full bush, but definitely not completely bare. The shaving is such a hassle. And then the ingrown hairs, and keeping up, the red spots, the itching, etc.! I have very sensitive skin and never managed to...